At times we may feel that our partners are not adequately stimulating us during sex. This can be true for men and women. It isn’t that our partners are bad lovers or do not know how to perform, but rather that they may not know what really turns us on. There can be many ways …
Continue ReadingOur sexual culture and The New York Times.
The latest public figure to make journalistic hay from the flibanserin controversy is Camille Paglia, whose editorial in The New York Times, ”No Sex Please, We’re Middle Class, “ seems to be getting some play on my twitter feed. It’s a fun read, but she throws a lot of things together that I’m not sure …
Continue ReadingHow much is enough…sex?
The question always comes up: what’s the “right” amount of sex? At nearly every lecture I give, at some point, I get the question: “so how often is normal?” It’s the kind of questions we sex educators hate. Really. The honest truth is that couples vary so widely in their sexual desires and habits that …
Continue ReadingDining and differentiation.
What’s the secret to making your love a lasting one? What’s the secret to keeping sexual passion alive? There’s no one best answer, and every couple is different. But many sex therapists, myself included, talk about something called “differentiation” as a key factor. Differentation means being able to take care of yourself, as a separate …
Continue ReadingGreen sex toys? Well, eco-friendly anyway.
Does anyone else have a hard time reading all the magazines that get delivered each week or month? It’s crushing, sometimes. But before I throw it all away I try to peruse headlines just so I’m not left speechless at an upcoming cocktail party. Here’s where that pays off: In Time Out New York, a …
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