“Changing it up” doesn’t have to mean big changes.

Every month in some women’s magazine the sex columns recommend “changing it up.” You know, that’s where they recommend putting the spice back in your sex life by “doing something different.” Invariably, that “something different” includes suggestions like “do it in a different room,” “try a new position,” “wear a costume.” Well, I’ve been doing …

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You are NOT crazy — really!

I had a medical appointment recently that made me understand my patients so much better. For the past year and a half, I’ve been having some weird medical symptoms that have been making me miserable. I’m in pain often, but the pain moved around and was somewhat hard to define to doctors. I spent the …

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Am I old enough to use a lubricant?

It is a very common misconception that lubricants are reserved for women who are “old” and “frigid.” We challenge this misconception every day. The amount of moisture a woman produces during the arousal phase varies based on many different variables — stress, water intake, caffeine consumption, medical problems, medications, and where they are in their menstrual cycle. …

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An ode to being aroused.

The other day a patient who was coming from very far away on the train said to us, “I was going to read 50 Shades of Grey on the way down here, but then I figured I might get turned on and couldn’t do anything about it.” Hmmmm…It occurred to me that many of my …

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