I am often inspired by my patients, by their courage to face their issues, by their commitment to the process of getting better and often by their fearlessness to do things that are completely foreign and that make them feel incredibly uncomfortable. I saw a patient yesterday who did all of the above. When we …
Continue ReadingGive the chubby guy a chance.
We were sitting with a patient yesterday. We love this patient. She’s funny, warm, smart and quite pretty. She, like so many of our patients, struggles mightily with her feelings of sexual inadequacy. “I don’t think I’m sexy enough.” “I don’t feel like I know enough.” “I’m just not pretty enough.” These are the kinds …
Continue ReadingDebunking the myth — Do women peak sexually at an older age than men?
Do women peak sexually at an older age than men? I have discovered that it depends what one means by peak. Generally speaking, sexually peaking for women is defined by satisfaction as opposed to libido. For men, sexually peaking is defined by libido as opposed to satisfaction. If one defined sexually peaking purely by libido, …
Continue ReadingHappiness, Part 2.
I recently read an article published in 2005 in the American Psychologist on Positive Psychology. The focus of this paper is to explore interventions that make people happier. The researchers that are cited in this article are interested in antidotes to depression and ways to help individuals have more satisfying lives. In the article, the …
Continue ReadingYour partner thinks you’re beautiful…you think he’s crazy.
If I hear one more woman say to me, “ I think I look hideous…what? My partner? Oh he loves looking at me. He thinks I’m beautiful. He’s an idiot.” I really may shoot myself. What???? Do you hear yourself??? I know we live in a society in which we are constantly told we don’t …
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