I was speaking to a group of rabbinical students yesterday, and after the talk I was challenged by a young rabbi-to-be. He said that while I talked about sex being safe, consensual and fun, I had left out all references to it being “meaningful” or “holy.” He was partially correct. I struggle with what it …
Continue ReadingHow long is too long?
I am referring to how long penetration should optimally last. Many women I see at the Center have pain with intercourse. Pain during intercourse can come from many things: dryness, low hormone levels, vaginismus and/or vulvodynia. Sometimes pain is simply the result of intercourse lasting too long. So when I see a patient who is …
Continue ReadingCollege orgasms — he said, she said.
I gave a lecture on Female Sexuality and Empowerment to a group of college students the other day. To my surprise, there were more men than women in the group. As the group was smaller in size than expected, we were able to have a more interactive discussion. The group was enthusiastic about learning about …
Continue ReadingIt isn’t your fault.
I received a (not so unusual) call today from a woman trying to figure out if she should come in as a patient. During our 10 minute phone call she basically told me that: She was interested in sex but her husband seemed totally disinterested. He maybe wanted to have sex once a month — usually …
Continue ReadingBat Sheva Marcus on CBS — Sex and Aging.
(CBS) — Forty years of research is turning conventional wisdom on its head when it comes to the issue of women and sex. The experts say it gets better with age. “Your husband wants it and you kind of go along with it,” said Susan Courtney, who is 56-years-old. Sex was never really at the top …
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