Summer has arrived, which means wedding season is here. Despite the growing divorce rate and various stressors that threaten long-term relationships, millions of people will walk down the aisle this summer. They will (hopefully) feel excited, hopeful, and dedicated to the unity of marriage, vowing to stay committed even when the going gets tough. But …
Continue ReadingLybrido — Are we making up the problem?
The New York Times recently ran an article about female libido and the race to develop a drug (Lybrido) that would help women want sex. There are so many arguments these days about women’s libidos. There are angry therapists, frustrated drug companies, sad women and lots and lots of confusion. Some therapists argue that drug …
Continue ReadingThe Grant Study: Happiness is love.
The Grant study is one of the longest running longitudinal studies of human development — an astonishing 75 years! In an effort to determine which factors contribute most strongly to human flourishing this study measures an astonishing range of psychological, anthropological and physical traits. Some of these traits range from personality type to IQ, drinking habits, family …
Continue ReadingLack of a message IS a message.
In our work treating female sexual dysfunction, we often see the same phenomenon take place: A woman will come to us for treatment after years of suffering from an issue that prevents her from having an enjoyable sex life. The issue could be anything from low desire, poor arousal, inability to orgasm or painful intercourse. …
Continue ReadingMYTH: Wine helps painful intercourse.
I am always surprised at how many patients I see who tell me that their gynecologist recommends they have a glass of wine before intercourse. They say it’s to help them relax and that it would help with the pain they experience during intercourse. Not only does this not work, but the patient is left …
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