In her book, “Why We Love, The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love”, Helen Fisher, talks about the neuroscience of attraction. “Romantic love is associated with elevated levels of Dopamine and/or norepinephrine”. When dopamine is circulating in the brain, “it produces focused attention, as well as fierce energy, concentrated motivation to attain rewards, and feelings …
Continue ReadingHealing vaginismus: An inspiring story.
Tonight I met with a very special couple. I obviously can’t give too many details, but I will say that I found the woman inspirational. She has struggled with serious mental illness all her life, and was raised in an incredibly restrictive and dysfunctional family which bordered on the abusive. She lived through one very, …
Continue ReadingDoes long term monogamy kill eroticism?
Esther Perel, in her book, Mating In Captivity, seems to believe that it often does. She writes that in our quest for security and stability we become too close to our partners and we get too comfortable. In that process, she feels that individuals in a couple often stop viewing one another as exciting. She …
Continue ReadingDressing sexy.
There’s always some women’s magazine article encouraging you to wear a sexy negligee or bewitching underwear. It’s a point made often because we are Pavlovian creatures and we do respond to outside stimulus. If we remember having great sex wearing that red satin teddy we wore the year we got engaged, it’s very likely that …
Continue ReadingResources on sex education.
I’m often asked for some suggestions of books to help talk to kids about sex. My wonderful friend, Catherine Dukes, PhD, who is the VP for Education at the Planned Parenthood of Delaware, is always a wealth of knowledge on sex education and resources. She suggested the following link, http://answer.rutgers.edu/page/books, and I thought it was great …
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