Since I started working at the Center I have grown increasingly interested in the female orgasm. Why are women and men obsessed with having an orgasm during intercourse when research has proven that only 33 percent of women can? What determines who can and who can’t? It turns out that genes play a big role …
Continue ReadingReligion and sex.
Some religions think sex is a sin. Many do not. The frustrating thing is that even religions which do not have this view seem to have adopted aspects of this way of thinking. And it’s even more frustrating when people who do not consider themselves religious somehow absorb the idea that sex is sinful. Why? …
Continue Reading“When Sex Seems Impossible.”
At the Center, I frequently see patients suffering from vaginismus. Vaginismus is a “female sexual dysfunction,” specifically a genital pain disorder. Vaginismus is defined by involuntary spasms of the vaginal muscles which interfere with sexual intercourse. It goes without saying that this condition causes distress and tension in a couple’s relationship. In my search to …
Continue ReadingYour partner is fine.
Your partner is FINE We are always amused when patients assume that the reason they can’t reach orgasm through intercourse is because they don’t have a skillful partner, or that somehow their partner doesn’t try hard enough. At the Center, we are well aware of the fact (and you see it all the time in …
Continue ReadingMind reading.
We often think that our partners should be mind readers. We hope that they will intuit what we need and then give us that thing in the way we would like to get it. That is rarely the case. In truth, you need to teach someone how to love you. I hear our patients say,” …
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