Our brains deserve credit for much of our sexual functioning. Once underlying physiological factors are addressed, we need to exercise the pleasure centers in the brain to boost libido and arousal. How do we do this? Reading erotica and engaging in fantasy are known to positively foster sexuality. They are vehicles that allow us to …
Continue ReadingJudy Blume and Puberty
Judy Blume’s 1970 classic “Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret” is being adapted into a movie. Woohoo! I am one of the women for whom this sweet, funny, authentic story about preteenhood was a lifesaver. This book is like a good friend who is there to normalize our experience and to ease the anxiety …
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Look no further than your latest social media feed (or any other media, for that matter) and where you find the word “women”, it will likely be paired with another: “empowerment”. Women are finding their voices like never before professionally, socially and even politically. But when it comes to intimacy, are we able to express …
Continue ReadingSeptember Is Menopause Awareness Month
All women know that at some point in their lives, that lovely phase called “menopause” will be upon them. And based on everything they’ve heard, they will likely expect to experience one or more of these common symptoms: hot flashes, night sweats, insomnia, fatigue, memory loss, low sex drive, painful intercourse or depression. What if …
Continue ReadingBoundaries in the Bedroom
Every month another women’s magazine has an article about how you should “make your bedroom an oasis.” Or “keep the bedroom for sex.” And when I see this I have a difficult time stifling a giggle. Yes, of course we would all be better off if we kept our bedroom as a haven for sex. …
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