I read an interesting article that Terry Real wrote disputing the maxim of not going to bed angry. On a certain level, it makes sense to resolve a problem so that your mind can be free and clear to enjoy a hopefully good night’s sleep. However, there are many advances in brain science and we now …
Continue ReadingForeplay: What is it?
It seems like everyone knows what foreplay is, right? Or wrong? A quick internet search of the term Foreplay brought me to numerous articles in Men’s magazines about “why women want it” or “how to give good foreplay.” Is it possible some men aren’t familiar with the concept of foreplay, or maybe just don’t know …
Continue ReadingBreakups Hurt
Relationship breakup is an issue that often comes up in my therapy sessions with patients. Breakups—whether it be a brief courtship, a long dating relationship, a committed marriage—can bring on a mix of emotions that may fluctuate. But somewhere, somehow, many of us have internalized this notion that life events should be experienced one emotion …
Continue ReadingKnow Yourself, Experiment, Open Up and Be Real
I love Lena Dunham. She’s smart, funny and not at all afraid to be herself. So when a writer from her magazine called and asked if they could interview me for an article, I jumped at the opportunity. I like to think of our center, Maze Women’s Sexual Health, as channeling the spirit of Lena …
Continue ReadingHope For Vaginismus
Suffering from sexual dysfunction is often a lonely struggle, especially for women who have primary vaginismus. It’s hard for the average person to imagine a couple being together for years and not be able to have intercourse. It sounds like a strange, bizarre phenomenon that can’t happen to modern, wordly, successful people who are in …
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