She Comes First, by Ian Kerner, is a great educational tool. It is an explicit guide to help men successfully give a woman an orgasm. His audience is really the inexperienced male partner. Thus the title, She Comes First, the thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman. It was modeled after the book by Strunk …
Continue ReadingMojo nights — no more.
There are many over-the-counter products on the market these days claiming to enhance both male and female sexual functioning. Recently there was a recall of two products: Mojo Nights and Mojo Nights for Her. After testing these products, the FDA found the presence of two different types of Erectile Dysfunction medications: Viagra (sildenafil) and Cialis …
Continue ReadingEmotionally Focused Therapy.
Often when we see a woman for treatment at the Center, we find that part of what she may be struggling with is her relationship. When that is a part of what is going on we may refer the patient for couples therapy. This is partly why our treatment is so effective. We can increase …
Continue ReadingTeaching about vibrators.
One of the parts of my job that I think is the most fun is teaching women about vibrators. As part of our treatment protocol, particularly for women who are having difficulty having orgasms, we introduce women to vibrators. Many women have tried one or two over the course of their lives. Some women try …
Continue ReadingEmbracing your inner girl.
Eve Ensler gave a talk at the TED conference in 2009 about embracing one’s inner girl, which she has written a book about. One of my amazing patients recently brought it to my attention. I have always known about and respected Eve Ensler so it was fun to see what her latest work has been …
Continue ReadingMirror, mirror on the wall.
Ever notice the facial expressions of little girls dressing up as princesses? Pure confidence. You won’t hear self-deprecating talk about whether they have the right figure to be a princess. Or if they need hair extensions to pull off the look. Or if they look royal despite missing a few teeth. What matters is that …
Continue ReadingDiaphragmatic breathing.
Vaginal dilation for the treatment of vaginimus in women can evoke all kinds fears including the fear of tearing, breaking, and permanently injuring their vaginas. Some of the fears are rational (mild tearing/irritation is possible) however most of the fears are not. These fears are extremely powerful and can cause high levels of anxiety. Anxiety …
Continue ReadingWeathering the storm of sexual dysfunction.
Throughout Hurricane Sandy, it was fascinating to watch social media activity and see how people were coping with disruption in their routines and their fears of the unknown. Facebook statuses were anything from “No electricity or water” and “A tree fell on our house!!” to “Anyone else annoyed about missing Monday night football??” and “Whew, …
Continue ReadingSex during pregnancy.
For the most part, sex during pregnancy really shouldn’t be all that different from sex at other times. Sex is safe, fun and a great way to celebrate this special time in your life with your partner. However, here are some things to keep in mind: If your doctor gives you specific instructions, it’s important …
Continue ReadingSome rumination on storm Sandy and sex.
Hmmm…I can tie anything in with sex, can’t I? Probably, but bear with me here. I got to thinking about how 9 months after major storms and blackouts there is always a spike in the number of babies born. That’s a reality that we don’t really question much. So obviously more people have sex during …
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