The concept of asexuality first came to my attention a few months ago when I began to see a young woman who was struggling with the fact that she felt no desire to be sexual. As a teenager she felt ostracized from having no interest in sex of any kind. Her girlfriends were all talking …
Continue ReadingThe elements of desire.
(Fourth in a series of articles discussing A Billion Wicked Thoughts, a controversial new book by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam that uses the internet to study human sexuality in some new and unusual ways.) There’s an app for that Much like your average personal computer, the human brain comes outfitted with a whole lot …
Continue ReadingThings I hate.
Things I Hate Okay — I think I’m going to start a list of things I hate or that make my blood boil. I figure one of the advantages of having a blog is being able to vent, right? So here’s something I hate. I hate couples therapists who are not comfortable dealing with sex!! You know, it …
Continue ReadingSex therapy and sexual health.
Sex therapy is a life saver when problems in the bedroom link to problems in the relationship, a person’s comfort level with emotional intimacy and more. But issues like pain and low desire — even trouble with orgasms — often have roots in physiological imbalances (hormones, neurotransmitters, muscle spasms.) So while you’re looking into sex therapy, consider …
Continue ReadingPatient to patient — A conversation about vaginismus.
Something wonderful happened today. I saw a new vaginismus patient. Typical in many ways, she is in her 30’s, pretty and petrified of romantic relationships. She avoids relationships because she believes that there is something “wrong with her.” She feels ashamed and damaged. She really doesn’t believe she can be helped. The few relationships she …
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