A man in his late 50’s goes to see a therapist for stress. After sitting through a few sessions, he finally musters up the guts to tell her what’s really bothering him. “So, I’ve noticed that since I turned 50, my libido has slowly disappeared.” The therapist, whether trained in sexual dysfunction or not, will …
Continue ReadingIt isn’t your fault.
I received a (not so unusual) call today from a woman trying to figure out if she should come in as a patient. During our 10 minute phone call she basically told me that: She was interested in sex but her husband seemed totally disinterested. He maybe wanted to have sex once a month — usually …
Continue ReadingHow long is too long: the average time for intercourse.
Okay ladies (and the men who may be looking over their shoulder.) The average time for intercourse is 3-5 minutes. So if your partner is thrusting inside of you for 25 minutes and your vagina hurts or gets sore, there is nothing wrong with your vagina. There is something wrong with your timing! Now…lets respond …
Continue ReadingSexual gridlock.
Sexual dysfunction is a complicated problem and often it isn’t one thing – or one person’s issue – that is causing it. If the problem goes on long enough, often it begins to affect other issues in the relationship. I notice that women often take on this problem as their own, “It’s my fault” or …
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