We walk around sharing varying forms of ourselves depending on the situation we are in, who we are with, and how we are feeling inside. Often we are not even conscious of the choice to adjust the level of disclosure and openness we exhibit; sometimes we are aware we are doing it but much of …Continue Reading
Because Sex is Not Just About Sex
Here’s an excerpt from an e-mail I recently received. I LOVED getting this e mail, not only because it was good news, which is always nice to get, but because I believe the writer highlighted something so crucial- how quickly sexual issues can snowball and affect the entire relationship even when a couple loves each …Continue Reading
The Multi Effects of Sexual Dysfunction
Most of our patients have fairly busy lives that require juggling multiple roles and responsibilities. When there is a sexual issue, life continues to be busy, and the sexual issue can easily get thrown to the “later” pile. But sexual dysfunction affects more than sex, and with time the pain becomes more palpable. Here are …Continue Reading
When Touch Gets Touchy
Every couple is different. Every couple has its own unique dynamics and ways of connecting. Yet so many issues are the same from couple to couple and when it comes to sexual dysfunction, we see many of the same patterns in couples from all age groups and backgrounds. An example of this is what happens …Continue Reading
Why the FDA approval of Flibanserin is important.
Here is the most significant thing to remember: sex is not just about what happens in the bedroom. My friend used to say that sex in a relationship is like the third leg of a stool. When it’s there, you don’t spend much time thinking about it, but when it’s gone the whole stool starts …Continue Reading
Sexual dysfunction: suffering x 2.
Usually my posts explore the experience and impact that sexual dysfunction can have on a woman’s sex life, confidence, and general well-being. In this post, I’d like to shift gears to the experience of the partner, who is often suffering too and may feel stuck. If that’s you, then you may have a whole bunch of …Continue Reading
What is Flibanserin?
I think this is a great article that talks about the medication Flibanserin and the controversy surrounding FDA approval for medications to treat female sexual dysfunction. Flibanserin is a non-hormonal oral medication, with a seemingly low side effect profile, that in essence increases dopamine and noradrenalin while reducing serotonin in the brain. According to some …Continue Reading
A man in his late 50’s goes to see a therapist for stress. After sitting through a few sessions, he finally musters up the guts to tell her what’s really bothering him. “So, I’ve noticed that since I turned 50, my libido has slowly disappeared.” The therapist, whether trained in sexual dysfunction or not, will …Continue Reading
Lack of a message IS a message.
In our work treating female sexual dysfunction, we often see the same phenomenon take place: A woman will come to us for treatment after years of suffering from an issue that prevents her from having an enjoyable sex life. The issue could be anything from low desire, poor arousal, inability to orgasm or painful intercourse. …Continue Reading
43% of women suffer from sexual dysfunction.
When you hear the words “sexual dysfunction” do you think of it as a male or female problem? The vast majority of people think that only men suffer from sexual dysfunction. They think of erectile dysfunction. They think of Viagra. They may snicker at the thought that women can also suffer from sexual dysfunction. Most …Continue Reading