It is a very common misconception that lubricants are reserved for women who are “old” and “frigid.” We challenge this misconception every day. The amount of moisture a woman produces during the arousal phase varies based on many different variables — stress, water intake, caffeine consumption, medical problems, medications, and where they are in their menstrual cycle. …
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The other day a patient who was coming from very far away on the train said to us, “I was going to read 50 Shades of Grey on the way down here, but then I figured I might get turned on and couldn’t do anything about it.” Hmmmm…It occurred to me that many of my …
Continue ReadingHe, he and he.
A recent article in New York Magazine, titled, “He , He and He” takes a look at a modern day and somewhat famous menage a trois. The French term literally means, ” a household of three,” and the implication is that the three are engaged in sexual relations. Historically, there are many well known threesomes: …
Continue ReadingThe misunderstood sex therapist-friend.
One of my best friends came from out of town to spend the night. We had a great time catching up and talking about pretty much everything, including the fact that the vibrator she was using felt too big and clunky. The day after she left I mailed her a book I thought she would …
Continue ReadingArousal and anxiety in women.
Arousal in women is typically marked by a woman’s ability to lubricate. Physiologically, many things are happening to create a physical response. I have found in my work at the Center that that physical response is extremely important to women. Though arousal may be harder to physically detect in a woman than in a man, …
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