Everyone will suffer a broken heart at one point in their life. Whether it is the death of a relative, friend, pet or even a relationship. Endings can hurt like hell. Our hearts may feel heavy and broken, as if it has crumbled into bits and pieces. There is a brighter side to heart break …
Continue ReadingAfter the affair: sex again?
Freud once said that when two people make love, there are six people in bed — the couple and their parents. After an affair, add a seventh: the ghost of the lover. Here are some ideas to help you pull your parents and the lover out from under the covers, warm up the space between you, …
Continue ReadingFishing for the right answers.
I recently met a woman complaining of a long history of painful intercourse. Several years ago she finally had the courage to tell her doctor about it. The doctor responded by recommending that she go see a therapist. The woman met with a therapist and was asked all the typical intake questions. When the therapist …
Continue ReadingDo beautiful people have better sex lives?
No! Really. Trust me. So look here. Yes, I suppose that beautiful people get picked up in bars and supermarkets more than less attractive ones but I don’t think in the end that matters one whit. Some beautiful people are very sexual. Some are not. People who are less beautiful by media standards seem to …
Continue ReadingJoyce Walder: Trust, intimacy and connection.
We see single women of all ages here at MCFS. I am a huge proponent of on line dating at any age. Often, when I suggest it to women, they will say they feel anxious, insecure, or not ready. I try to encourage them to feel good about themselves and to realize that most men …
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