I have been struggling mightily recently with a spate of Ultra-Orthodox women who are completely desireless…I mean totally, completely. Almost asexual. I told my husband the other night that I am embarrassed to admit it but I sometimes despair when I’m working with these patients. We help, but it’s such a struggle. Sometimes I feel …
Continue ReadingAsexuality.
The concept of asexuality first came to my attention a few months ago when I began to see a young woman who was struggling with the fact that she felt no desire to be sexual. As a teenager she felt ostracized from having no interest in sex of any kind. Her girlfriends were all talking …
Continue ReadingThe language of lust.
I recently read the book, The Other Side of Desire, by Daniel Bergner. In it, Bergner describes “four journeys into the far realms of lust and longing”. This book is not for everyone. Bergner explores the lives of a pedophiliac, a sadist and others who have erotic tastes that are outside of the norm. Though …
Continue ReadingHormones: The base coat paint.
Plain and simple, hormones seem to be the base coat paint for our sexual functioning. They have such a significant impact on who we are and how we react to things that when they are low or missing or if we have too much, nothing really seems to go right. We can get anxious, moody, …
Continue ReadingFinding good pornography.
In the last few months I seem to be the envy of all the men I know. Straight, single, gay or married they all want to hear about why and how I get paid to watch pornography. It is actually a tiny part of what I do but to some it might seem the most …
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