I am really enjoying the book, Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski. She is a sex educator, teacher and author. She definitely comes from the educator perspective as opposed to a therapeutic perspective which I find interesting. She spends the first part of the book explaining women’s anatomy in depth and encouraging women to …
Continue ReadingSelf-talk matters.
We have relationships with many different people in our lives; relationships with family members, relationships with friends, relationships with co-workers, relationships with neighbors, etc. A key difference in those relationships is the varying levels of frequency, intensity, and content of communication, and that can shape the level of closeness we feel towards others. But what’s …
Continue ReadingThe game isn’t over.
“Yikes, have you seen your vagina lately?” “You have the vagina of a ninety-year old woman.” “Can’t have intercourse? You’d make a great nun!” The above phrases were shared with me by patients and attributed to professionals they had consulted regarding their sexual dysfunction. Needless to say, the endeavors were not only futile in solving …
Continue ReadingPerv: part one.
I highly recommend the book Perv by Jesse Bering, The Sexual Deviant in All of Us. Bering includes many personal stories of growing up gay in America. He also explains and explores how one’s sexual interests are often formed and how each person’s sexual proclivities are, “as unique as their fingerprints.” I think this is …
Continue ReadingSo far away.
By the time many of our patients walk through our door, sex has become a sore subject in their relationships. Feeling sexually distant from a partner can manifest in various ways, and patients have shared descriptions that tend to come down to the same idea: We live in the same place and share so much, …
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