A new study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, confirmed what many of us have known for years. Attentiveness and responsiveness to a partner’s sexual needs increases that partner’s desire: “Feeling special and perceived partner mate value explained the responsiveness–desire link, suggesting that responsive partners were seen as making one feel valued as …
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There are so many books on how to have an orgasm that I sometimes feel I could start an orgasm library, you know, a whole library with just books on orgasm. Some of the books are great and helpful. Some of them, less so. But when I’m talking to women about becoming orgasmic, there are …
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The idea of mindfulness, staying present, and creating meaningful moments has exploded, proliferating across many fields. While browsing a home design site, I came upon Sati Tala, which means “a mindful surface”. Tany Jarus, a design student created a new intimate dining table for her final project. It consists of stools and a wooden table …
Continue ReadingNever too late in the Summer for Sex Ed
Summer vacation is sadly (or gladly for some) coming to an end. The kids are on their way back to school, and another year begins. A friend of mine has a daughter starting middle school this fall, and vowed she would talk to her about sex and sexuality before Labor Day. She started saying this …
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There are some things in life that get old. Fashion trends. Slang terms. Pokemon. Cars. Textbooks. But one thing that never gets old is what it is like sitting with a woman who has just had pain-free intercourse after years of suffering from vaginismus. When patients with vaginismus first come here, many of them report …
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