On feeling sexy.

A patient I was speaking with the other day made an observation that I think bears repeating. She said, “I realized that I was not allowing myself to feel sexy or act sexy because I was scared.” More importantly she said, “I don’t think I even realized I was doing that.” She had a difficult …

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Porn sex vs real sex, explained in food.

WARNING: This video may not be appropriate for those offended by food porn. What am I talking about? This video by Kornhaber Brown illustrates the differences between porn sex and real sex using FOOD. Be prepared to laugh and possibly gasp.  The put it bluntly, the video refers to anal sex, squirting, and swallowing using …

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Social media: it’s more than face value.

Before the days of Facebook, Twitter, and blogs, our knowledge of people’s intimate lives was limited. Either the curtains were closed or we could only see what was on center stage. Today, it seems that not only is the curtain always open and there’s always stage visibility, but we have a continuous backstage pass as …

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How many women use vibrators?

“More than half of 2,056 women, aged 18 to 60, used a vibrator either during masturbation or intercourse, says Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH, associate director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University, Bloomington, who led the survey.” If more than half of all women use vibrators, why is there still such a …

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How wet is too wet?

Every once in a while we have a patient who says their partner is concerned because her vagina feels too wet or too loose. They tell us that the partners are unhappy because they don’t “feel” them and complain that their penis doesn’t seem to get enough traction in their vagina. Admittedly, we are always …

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