If all roads lead to Rome, in sex therapy all roads lead to shame…

Guilt is feeling bad for what we did, i.e., “I had unprotected sex.” Shame is feeling bad for who we are, i.e., “I’m a slut.” Shame is that inner voice that says, “I’m not good enough.” For many people shame becomes the core belief of who we are and eats away at the deepest part of our soul. The roots of shame are often found in childhood events, a rigid religious upbringing, or traumatic events like rape. For people who have been abused or traumatized there are often feelings of self blame, i.e., “It’s my fault. I’m no good or I wouldn’t have been treated so badly.” There is no cookie cutter formula for treating shame but overcoming it is possible and life changing. If you feel bad about who you are, today might be a good day to start the healing process. There is always hope, potential and possibility. Sometimes we just need a little help to see the bright light shining at the end of the tunnel. www.doctorcannon.com



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