Motherhood and Sex

Very often patients will tell us that before they had children they thought about sex, enjoyed sex, were adventurous sexually. And then they became a mom.  And the lights went out. Being a mom and a sexual being is not an oxymoron.  But for many women it is, and how you conceptualize the effect of …

Continue Reading

Getting Off On TV

For some of my female patients, just hearing me say the word “porn” makes them cringe, look away and change the subject. At this point, I feel like I have lost them into an abyss of discomfort and the conversation about watching anything to get turned on hits a wall. So I thought, what about …

Continue Reading

Idealistic Sex vs Realistic Sex

In our center, we are often troubleshooting with patients when it comes to creating a sex life that feels sustainable on a regular, non-vacation basis. While each case is different and every relationship has its unique challenges, what often emerges from patients are idealistic notions about sex that may sound nice and appealing, but are …

Continue Reading

Falling Back to Spring Forward

With the ending of Daylight Saving Time, I’ve been noticing that numerous patients seem to be feeling down, more anxious and less vibrant. I saw that the Fall TV Special (created in 1966)   “It’s the Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown” aired recently. That reminded me of the Broadway musical “You’re a Good Man Charlie Brown,” particularly …

Continue Reading