Very often patients will tell us that before they had children they thought about sex, enjoyed sex, were adventurous sexually. And then they became a mom. And the lights went out. Being a mom and a sexual being is not an oxymoron. But for many women it is, and how you conceptualize the effect of …
Continue ReadingGetting Off On TV
For some of my female patients, just hearing me say the word “porn” makes them cringe, look away and change the subject. At this point, I feel like I have lost them into an abyss of discomfort and the conversation about watching anything to get turned on hits a wall. So I thought, what about …
Continue ReadingHow Much Sex Is Enough Sex For A Happy Marriage?
Eureka! In the past 5 years I have often expressed my frustration at how little research is available about basic sexual issues. One of my pet peeves is that there is no data available on the effect that sex may (or may not) have on long term relationships. That is, does regular sex improve a …
Continue ReadingIdealistic Sex vs Realistic Sex
In our center, we are often troubleshooting with patients when it comes to creating a sex life that feels sustainable on a regular, non-vacation basis. While each case is different and every relationship has its unique challenges, what often emerges from patients are idealistic notions about sex that may sound nice and appealing, but are …
Continue ReadingFalling Back to Spring Forward
With the ending of Daylight Saving Time, I’ve been noticing that numerous patients seem to be feeling down, more anxious and less vibrant. I saw that the Fall TV Special (created in 1966) “It’s the Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown” aired recently. That reminded me of the Broadway musical “You’re a Good Man Charlie Brown,” particularly …
Continue ReadingWomen and the Development of Sex Toys
The point at which sex and technology meet is always fascinating and there seems to be an uptick in that area these days. With more expensive and personalized vibrators and sex toys becoming all the rage, it feels like we’re moving into a new era for women. But, I’d caution you! The truth is that …
Continue ReadingOctober is Domestic Abuse Awareness Month, But Where is the Purple?
October is both breast cancer awareness month as well as domestic violence awareness month. For many years now October has been filled with walks and runs to raise awareness for breast cancer research , buildings lit up with pink lights, and beautiful pink ribbons women and men proudly display on their t-shirts, hats, cars, etc. …
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