Psychotherapy can be a helpful and fulfilling experience. Some people love therapy and feeling comforted knowing they have a space where they can fall apart; other people don’t like therapy and find it awkward and uncomfortable. Nevertheless, therapy can be a deeply enriching experience where people feel support in working towards better understanding and inner …
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Okay. This blog goes deep into a belief system we all struggle with. Every single woman I know. No matter what we say, or how hard we work at it, most women feel that there is something wrong with their bodies and the way that they look. Period. And this gets in the way (big …
Continue ReadingOne billion rising on V-Day.
Today is V-day, a day that begins 48 hours of global activism for survivors of gender violence. One Billion Rising For Justice is a global call to women survivors of violence to break their silence and release their stories through art, dance, marches, ritual, song, spoken word, and whatever way feels right. In 2013, …
Continue ReadingThe spillover effect.
One of the common myths around sex is that it is just one compartment of a relationship. In other words, if everything else in the relationship is good — you get along well, have similar values, enjoy spending time together — then that can overcompensate for what is lacking sexually. However, I have seen time and time …
Continue ReadingThe Ziegarnik Effect.
John Gottman’s new book “What Makes Love Last” focuses on trust and betrayal. John Gottman is a couples therapist who does a great deal of research on what enables couples to maintain long term intimacy. He has written several books and this is his latest. In his book he discusses the Ziegarnik Effect. In the …
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One of my absolute favorite sections of the Sunday Times is the Modern Love Column in the Style Section. Every week a different writer writes about his/her perception of an element of love. Sometimes it’s romantic love, but it can be familial love, love for a pet, a past, a story, almost anything will do. …
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