Sex After Menopause

Sex after menopause can be wonderful. The kids have all grown up, no worries about contraception, finally you and your partner have time to spend on each other. But many women develop physical symptoms that make sex uncomfortable, difficult or even impossible after menopause, and their sex life comes to a grinding halt. But there …

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When simple things become VERY, VERY AWFUL

It may be due to Vulvar and Vaginal Atrophy (VVA), a chronic and progressive medical condition that affects many menopausal women. Approximately 1 in 2 menopausal women in the United States experience VVA. VVA is caused by decreased estrogen production. Women may spend an average of one-third of their lives in this hypoestrogenic state. The …

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That’s What HE Said

I’m proud of our Vaginismus Forum. Vaginismus can be a heartbreaking condition to deal with and the shame around it adds some real salt to the wound.  So the fact that we have a place where people can go where vaginismus language is understood, it’s a drink of water in a desert of silence. Recently, …

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“Dear Stress, Let’s Break Up.”

When it comes to relationships, breaking up is hard to do! Even writing a Dear John letter to stress takes practice, determination, and maybe even some tears. There are many breathing exercises that can help with saying goodbye to stress. Here’s one I recently came across in Real Simple Magazine: When your negative voice gets …

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Grieving Sex

Grief is an experience that is hard to quantify or explain.  It doesn’t work in the usual confines of time and space.  It’s a unique experience, yet shared by humanity.  The New York Times recently published an article on grieving a sex life after a partner dies. It was an important conversation starter.  I thought …

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Haters Gonna Love!

We have all heard the phrase “opposites attract”, but it’s been my experience that finding common ground and sharing core values makes for ultimate compatibility. Enter ‘Hater’, a new dating app where “you can meet someone who hates the same stuff”! The app was thought up by Brendan Alper after he read a 2006 study …

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National Mental Health Awareness Month

May is National Mental Health Awareness month. This year the focus is on risky behaviors. It is important to educate people about habits, and behaviors that increase the risk of developing or exacerbating mental health problems. An example of risky behavior involves sex.  Sex is a completely natural and normal part of the human experience, …

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