Word of the day: PHUBBING

As a fan of “word of the day,” I discovered a new one: “Phubbing.” Phubbing is when your partner is snubbing you by constantly checking their phone when they are with you. I feel that computers, although amazing, necessary, and beneficial, cause people to isolate themselves. Now we are joined by the Smartphone which can be damaging to …

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What a Year It Has Been!

Sometimes in the day to day flurry of our own lives we don’t notice all the “big things” happening that may affect our sexual lives: laws,  legislation, public statements and even technology. So here is a list of some of the best and worst things that happened in 2016. Enjoy. Best Sex #1: Supreme Court …

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The Perk of Predictability

Sometimes unpredictability makes life more fun, adventurous, and interesting. But when it comes to sexual dysfunction, unpredictability can intensify the emotional pain and lead to continued avoidance and distance.  When you can’t trust that your body and mind will show up for sex the way you hope, it may make you want to say, why …

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Please, Please Me!

While phones can have a negative impact on your sex life with all the beeps and buzzes that going off, and never mind the black hole that is watching cat videos.   What if your phone could help you get into bed, and get the sex you want?  A free App called PlsPlsMe (Please Please Me) …

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Timed Conversations

Listening isn’t an easy task for many of us. It comes more naturally for some than others. One thing I recently noticed is that the word “listen” has the letters “s-i-l-e-n-t “in it. Borrowing from an article titled “How to be a Better Listener,” by Erika Kleinman which appeared in the Lenny Newsletter, there is …

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Millennial Women and Birth Control

In most Millennials are strong minded, socially liberal, and willing to argue causes they believe in. Millennials have made it clear that they support sex education within school districts and believe in contraception that is easily available and accessible to everyone. More and more Millennials are using the both the IUD and hormonal implants for …

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On scheduling sex — when you have kids.

Often times I’ll tell patients with children that they need to schedule specific times for sex. They will look at me quizzically, not quite getting what I am suggesting. “Good sex” in our society is so often synonymous with “spontaneous sex,” that to suggest scheduling sex, is almost like suggesting sex with your clothes on. …

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Resolve Nothing

As a new year begins, we often here people speak about their “New Year’s Resolutions.”  More often than not these resolutions are about changing something about yourself. Popular ones include: losing weight, getting to the gym more often, eating healthy, etc.  But what if we stopped and thought for a moment about what we like …

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Understanding Vulvodynia

If you have vaginal pain with intercourse, you may have been diagnosed with vulvodynia. And you may feel terribly confused by all the information you are getting from your doctor or from looking up the condition on line. And that’s totally understandable because the truth is that there can be some disagreement by doctors themselves …

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New Treatment for Provoked Vestibulodynia (PVD)

I am so excited to share with you a new treatment for Provoked Vestibulodynia (PVD) called low level laser therapy. PVD is defined as chronic, unexplained, vulvar pain in response to contact or pressure. This pain may be in response to non-sexual activities such as tampon insertion, or gynecologic examination. Most patients with PVD present …

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