A woman I know told me the following story which I thought was wonderful. She has been dating a guy for the past few months who (by all accounts) seems like a keeper. They have a lovely relationship. One day a week or two ago they were on the phone and he said, “You know, …
Continue ReadingA good day at our center.
Someone once asked me what makes a good day at our center. Today is one of those days. Today I got an email with a copy of a baby picture from a patient who struggled for 2 years with vaginismus. She is fine, having great sex and has a beautiful little baby girl to prove …
Continue ReadingDesire or “I want you!”
“I want you.” Three simple words, but somehow they seem nearly impossible to define. Desire can be very complex and often seems mysterious to us. It appears as a magical equation of attraction mixed with physical attributes, eroticism, passion, simple physical need, or love. And when desire is not there, in its place there is …
Continue ReadingThe unconsummated marriage/relationship.
Here is the most important thing to remember: NO ONE NEEDS TO LIVE WITH AN UNCONSUMMATED RELATIONSHIP. EVERYONE CAN BE HELPED! Really and truly. I promise you. So if you are sitting there thinking “I am the worst case ever. I can’t possibly do this, ” I’m here to let you know that it just …
Continue ReadingExploring your sexual identity.
How is one’s sexual identity formed? Is it formed from our parents? Our biology and hormonal makeup? Our friends, or the media, or how we look? How much do our early sexual experiences with a partner, or partners form us? One’s sexual identity is a complex and dynamic entity. Some of us grow up feeling …
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