My husband claims I see vaginismus everywhere. Okay. Maybe he’s right. Maybe I do…it kills me. When I see a woman who is totally avoidant of relationships I suspect she is fearful of penetration. When I see a young girl fearful of tampons, I suspect she is panicked at the idea of putting something inside. …
Continue ReadingA good day at our center.
Someone once asked me what makes a good day at our center. Today is one of those days. Today I got an email with a copy of a baby picture from a patient who struggled for 2 years with vaginismus. She is fine, having great sex and has a beautiful little baby girl to prove …
Continue ReadingDr. Stephen Snyder writes on “simmering.”
Here is a wonderful introduction to the idea of “simmering,” slowly meandering around the periphery of arousal as a path to “just desserts” at a different time. Enjoy this beautifully rendered piece by Dr. Snyder: A train in motion On the B train, one hot summer Sunday afternoon. I’m bringing my children and a few …
Continue ReadingSex = Love?
Does sex equal love in a romantic relationship? Okay — most people would roll their eyes if you asked them that. OF COURSE sex does not equal love. Sex is sex and love is love. Yet… when one partner does not want to have sex with the other partner, there can often get translated into …
Continue ReadingHow much is enough…sex?
The question always comes up: what’s the “right” amount of sex? At nearly every lecture I give, at some point, I get the question: “so how often is normal?” It’s the kind of questions we sex educators hate. Really. The honest truth is that couples vary so widely in their sexual desires and habits that …
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