Listening isn’t an easy task for many of us. It comes more naturally for some than others. One thing I recently noticed is that the word “listen” has the letters “s-i-l-e-n-t “in it. Borrowing from an article titled “How to be a Better Listener,” by Erika Kleinman which appeared in the Lenny Newsletter, there is …
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As a new year begins, we often here people speak about their “New Year’s Resolutions.” More often than not these resolutions are about changing something about yourself. Popular ones include: losing weight, getting to the gym more often, eating healthy, etc. But what if we stopped and thought for a moment about what we like …
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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and it pains me that we even need to be aware of this in the first place. It’s crucial to recognize this issue and to become well informed, alert, attentive and to appreciate that our attitudes and culture still need much improvement. Our society continues to deprecate women and …
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As you are reading this, I’d like you notice your feet on the ground. Your back against the chair. Your breath coming in and out. Congrats, you just did a grounding exercise. A grounding exercise is a conscious intervention that brings us back to the present, to the here-and-now. To where the body is at …
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October is Domestic Abuse Awareness month. Domestic violence (DV) also now commonly referred to as Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) affects us all. But like sex and sexuality it is one of those taboo topics that are not openly talked about, yet surrounds us. Statistics record that 1 in 4 American women is or will be …
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A new study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, confirmed what many of us have known for years. Attentiveness and responsiveness to a partner’s sexual needs increases that partner’s desire: “Feeling special and perceived partner mate value explained the responsiveness–desire link, suggesting that responsive partners were seen as making one feel valued as …
Continue ReadingVaginismus? Maybe you meant veganism.
One of our specialties at Maze is treating vaginismus. Vaginismus is a condition where there is involuntary tightness of the vagina during attempted intercourse. Women do not control the tightness, and many do not even realize this tightness is causing the tightness and pain with penetration. Most patients have been to see several other medical professional …
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We walk around sharing varying forms of ourselves depending on the situation we are in, who we are with, and how we are feeling inside. Often we are not even conscious of the choice to adjust the level of disclosure and openness we exhibit; sometimes we are aware we are doing it but much of …
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Vaginismus is not usually the kind of condition you learn about from a Facebook status, a social event, or in some cases, even a trip to the doctor. It typically exists in silence. In our Vaginismus Forum, there are frequently posts from women sharing not just about the pain of living with unresolved vaginismus, …
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Meditation is nothing new, but it’s become a lot more popular these days. And that’s a good thing. I used to think that meditation meant sitting for a long period of time and having a blank mind. I’d meet people who told me they meditate for a half hour each morning and I felt like …
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