When we think of addictions we often think of substance abuse or gambling problems. However, as a therapist I often see patients who seem to be “addicted” to resentment. They use it as a coping skill, much like alcoholics use alcohol to cope and not address the real issues at hand. We have all been …
Continue ReadingGO TO BED ANGRY!!
I read an interesting article that Terry Real wrote disputing the maxim of not going to bed angry. On a certain level, it makes sense to resolve a problem so that your mind can be free and clear to enjoy a hopefully good night’s sleep. However, there are many advances in brain science and we now …
Continue ReadingBreakups Hurt
Relationship breakup is an issue that often comes up in my therapy sessions with patients. Breakups—whether it be a brief courtship, a long dating relationship, a committed marriage—can bring on a mix of emotions that may fluctuate. But somewhere, somehow, many of us have internalized this notion that life events should be experienced one emotion …
Continue ReadingOctober is Domestic Abuse Awareness Month, But Where is the Purple?
October is both breast cancer awareness month as well as domestic violence awareness month. For many years now October has been filled with walks and runs to raise awareness for breast cancer research , buildings lit up with pink lights, and beautiful pink ribbons women and men proudly display on their t-shirts, hats, cars, etc. …
Continue ReadingWireless relationships.
There’s information you can get from reading history books and then there’s the wisdom you can get from the people who have actually lived it. Dr. Shirley Zussman is 100 years old and has been counseling people for over half a century. She has witnessed tremendous shifts in cultural attitudes around sex and relationships and …
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