This entry was written recently by a patient at MCFS following six months of treatment for low desire. Her previous entry, written after her second appointment last October, was posted on April 5th. Last night I kissed my husband’s ear and he did not move. He wasn’t in the mood and I was! For some …
Continue ReadingWhy I’m not as crazy as I thought.
The following is a blog entry written by a patient at MCFS. Later this week we will post another entry by the same patient, reporting on her progress. This was written in October 2009. For about 14 years now I have been told constantly that things are in my head. Stomach cramps — must be stress, acne — must …
Continue Reading“My husband wants to have sex everyday,” and other popular myths…
To be filed under the “I wish I had a nickel every time a patient said this to me.” Women with low libidos always think their husbands want to have sex every day. When I am doing an intake with a woman who is having sex (because she feels obligated) say, once every 3 weeks, …
Continue ReadingDesire and depression.
Sometimes, when women come into the center with low desire we talk to them about anti=depressants. The reaction isn’t always good: “You think I’m depressed? I’mhere to talk about my lack of sex drive!” Life situations and hormones can play a role in depression. Serotonin, the hormone normally associated with depression, isn’t the only culprit. …
Continue ReadingThe whole picture.
Good Housekeeping recently had an article, “Your Sexiest Self — Get It Back” (February, 2010). It poignantly described one woman’s loss of libido for all of the usual reasons: overwhelmed with life, kids entering the picture, relationship getting “old,” she was getting older. So the writer and her husband saw noted psychologist and sex therapist David …
Continue ReadingThe frustration of sex therapy.
I had a patient yesterday who has zero sex drive. Zero. She has never masturbated. She has never fantasized. She has never been turned on as far as she can tell. She is sad and frustrated and it is effecting her marriage. She spent the last two years on sex therapy. The first year was …
Continue ReadingIn sex therapy and treatment, sometimes just talking helps.
I’m often struck, when first meeting with patients, how much help they get just by talking. During the first appointment, when I get a history I feel like patients relax so much. It’s like they finally had a chance to tell the truth (sometimes for the first time) to someone who doesn’t judge, doesn’t think …
Continue ReadingIs sex therapy psychological or physical? Yes!
Often sexual problems are the result of both physical obstacles and emotional issues. Before committing to sex therapy to uncover the causes and stresses connected to sexual dysfunction, you may want to rule out any physical conditions that can be treated with relative ease and in a short time period. In recent years, research into …
Continue Readingresearch=hope
Where there is research, there is hope. Under the category of “no, ladies, it’s NOT all in your head,” comes another study with a new drug that really seems to help with arousal problems and desire problems that arise from that. It’s a drug called Flibanserin and it works on Dopamine levels to make sex …
Continue Reading“Just do it?”
I was recently having a conversation with an OB/GYN about low sexual desire in women. We were discussing treatment options, when he said; “I tell my patients to do it the Nike way, you know, Just do it.” I didn’t know what to say. I stood there in total silence, somewhat horrified and offended. Shocked …
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