People worry about their fantasy life way too much. I’m not sure when, or how, as a society, we lost our ability to distinguish between imagination and real life, but I know that loss of distinction affects us in many unhealthy ways. And, as a sex therapist, I’ll assure you, that your sex life is …Continue Reading
According to Wikipedia, Erotica is defined as “any literary and artistic work that deals substantively with subject matter that is erotically stimulating or sexually arousing but is not pornographic.” I feel the need to share this definition because I think that many people believe that erotica is synonymous with pornography. I have read a lot …Continue Reading
An Erotic Theme Park?
Just when you think you’ve heard it all, someone proves you wrong! Brazil is planning on building an erotic theme park. You can’t make this stuff up. They think it will be a big draw, and I’m guessing they are right. They are marketing it, however, as an educational program with information on the history …Continue Reading
What is She Listening to?
Why does that woman with the cute pink headphones look so happy on the treadmill? Well she might just be listening to Erotica. According to Audible.com, the leading publisher in audio books, “Audio Erotica” is a booming business. Reading takes time and concentration, the allure of audio Erotica is that you can be anywhere you …Continue Reading
Getting Off On TV
For some of my female patients, just hearing me say the word “porn” makes them cringe, look away and change the subject. At this point, I feel like I have lost them into an abyss of discomfort and the conversation about watching anything to get turned on hits a wall. So I thought, what about …Continue Reading
Learning to fantasize: go where your brain takes you.
I spend a lot of time with patients talking about fantasizing. For many women it’s not something they do naturally. It’s something that they have to learn. I’ve come to believe that fantasizing is a skill like many others. While some people take to it more naturally than others, everyone is capable of doing it …Continue Reading
Spicing up your sex life.
The trick for keeping a long-term sexual relationship interesting is essentially giving it some attention! Think about it. The reality is that everyone needs something a bit different in their sex life and there is no “one-size fits all”. The more you actually spend time THINKING about what would spice up your sex life, the …Continue Reading
“Fifty Shades of Gray.”
Reading erotica is a behavioral activity we often recommend to our patients looking to help increase their desire and arousal. Some patients find reading random articles in Cosmopolitan Magazine are sufficient enough to get their motors started, while others find the erotica we recommend too “vanilla”. Like everything else in life, what works for one person doesn’t …Continue Reading
The year in clinical sexuality, 2011.
As we get ready to leave 2011 behind, I would like as always to express my gratitude to family, friends and colleagues for your support and encouragement over the past year; and to my patients for your trust and confidence. May we all merit much happiness in 2012. Here’s my list of 2011′s most interesting …Continue Reading
Erotica for the blind.
Here’s an interesting article about a new sexy book with a twist. It’s been written and produced for the blind. ‘Tactical Mind’ is billing itself as the first erotic book for blind people and it incorporates raised sexually explicit images as well as erotic descriptions in Braille. The book has received a great deal of …Continue Reading