I have been struggling mightily for the past few months to articulate what Haley Phelan says so perfectly in this weeks NY Times.Thank you Haley! Sex is tricky, messy and complicated. Trying to harness it into a set of rules will only lead to more confusion and ultimately disappointment. That doesn’t mean we don’t need …
Continue ReadingEmbracing Negative Emotions
Most of us are taught from a young age that negative emotions are bad, and we are not supposed to be angry or sad. But the truth is we could not be feeling, loving human beings unless we felt those negative emotions. How could we know what happiness is if we did not feel sadness? …
Continue ReadingPainful Sex Can Last for Years, But it Doesn’t Have to. Finding the Right Provider is Key
Painful sex is one of the most common complaints that presents in our practice. There are a multitude of causes for painful sex such as, hormonal changes, pelvic floor muscle issues, and neurological changes. Below is an article about congenital neuroproliferative vestibulodynia, which is a condition some woman are born with. The primary symptom is …
Continue ReadingSex Should Not Hurt Physically or Emotionally in Anyway at Anytime
As more and more media attention is being brought to light about the prevalence of sexual assault, we are starting to see more coverage on the fact that sex should not be painful in anyway. The recent article in The Week does an excellent job exploring the fact that, “Women are enculturated to be uncomfortable …
Continue ReadingWe Get By With A Lot Of Help From Our Friends
Diversifying our material assets is a well-known concept. As it turns out, doing the same with relationships is a good idea as well. Finding a significant other is wonderful, but may not be enough for meeting all of our emotional needs. Having different people around to help with varying emotional tasks seems to be linked …
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