I loved this blog post! I think it illustrates yet again the pitfalls around talking to kids about sex. Too little information? Not great. Too much information? Also not great. But when push comes to shove, I’d err towards too much information. And this interaction illustrates it beautifully. When there’s too much information, or when …
Continue ReadingAddyi (Flibanserin) approved by the FDA.
Addyi, also known as Flibanserin, was recently approved by the FDA to treat low sexual desire in women. It is the first FDA approved medication for female sexual dysfunction. Addyi is a non-hormonal oral medication, with a seemingly low side effect profile, that in essence increases dopamine and noradrenaline while reducing serotonin in the brain …
Continue Reading“Come As You Are.”
I am really enjoying the book, Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski. She is a sex educator, teacher and author. She definitely comes from the educator perspective as opposed to a therapeutic perspective which I find interesting. She spends the first part of the book explaining women’s anatomy in depth and encouraging women to …
Continue ReadingSelf-talk matters.
We have relationships with many different people in our lives; relationships with family members, relationships with friends, relationships with co-workers, relationships with neighbors, etc. A key difference in those relationships is the varying levels of frequency, intensity, and content of communication, and that can shape the level of closeness we feel towards others. But what’s …
Continue ReadingWhy the FDA approval of Flibanserin is important.
Here is the most significant thing to remember: sex is not just about what happens in the bedroom. My friend used to say that sex in a relationship is like the third leg of a stool. When it’s there, you don’t spend much time thinking about it, but when it’s gone the whole stool starts …
Continue ReadingJohn Oliver on sex education in the US.
Sometimes I see something on TV that makes me want to give a standing ovation. It’s rare, but it happens. Here’s one of the those times. John Oliver did a segment on the state of sex education in the US. It’s brilliant, accurate and pretty damn scary. It’s also funny as hell. So grab your …
Continue ReadingWhy nice guys finish last.
I enjoyed reading this blog written by Steven Snyder, MD on the plight of being a nice guy. I often see women who say they want to date a “nice guy” and then I have seen these same women complain that their “nice guy” is annoying, a pushover, a momma’s boy…you get the point. Dr. …
Continue ReadingThe game isn’t over.
“Yikes, have you seen your vagina lately?” “You have the vagina of a ninety-year old woman.” “Can’t have intercourse? You’d make a great nun!” The above phrases were shared with me by patients and attributed to professionals they had consulted regarding their sexual dysfunction. Needless to say, the endeavors were not only futile in solving …
Continue ReadingWhat would happen to pregnancy rates if long term birth control was free?
It’s an interesting question, isn’t it? If we gave women the option of free long term birth control, that is birth control which didn’t involve them “doing anything” like taking a pill every day or putting in some type of contraption every time they have sex, what would happen to unwanted pregnancies? How about abortions? …
Continue ReadingPerv: part one.
I highly recommend the book Perv by Jesse Bering, The Sexual Deviant in All of Us. Bering includes many personal stories of growing up gay in America. He also explains and explores how one’s sexual interests are often formed and how each person’s sexual proclivities are, “as unique as their fingerprints.” I think this is …
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