Most of the advice and information about female sexuality found on the internet and in the media depicts love, relationships and sex as “movie romance”. It’s just not real. And often I find myself spending time with patients trying to help them understand that, in real life, relationships and sex are often messy, complicated, funny, …
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A recent article was published in the New York Times that I found really interesting. It’s called “Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person”; catchy title, I know, but I don’t think it’s a depressing read. The premise of the article is basically that we go into relationships with unrealistic expectations of love, marriage and …
Continue ReadingPutting Pleasure into Sex Education
My younger patients, twenty and under, are often confused and seem a little uncomfortable when I ask them about their “Desire” for sex. Their answers include: “fine,” or “ok.” I will then try and make them more comfortable and normalize the idea that sexual desire is a normal and healthy part of life. Many women …
Continue ReadingBecause Sex is Not Just About Sex
Here’s an excerpt from an e-mail I recently received. I LOVED getting this e mail, not only because it was good news, which is always nice to get, but because I believe the writer highlighted something so crucial- how quickly sexual issues can snowball and affect the entire relationship even when a couple loves each …
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Meditation is nothing new, but it’s become a lot more popular these days. And that’s a good thing. I used to think that meditation meant sitting for a long period of time and having a blank mind. I’d meet people who told me they meditate for a half hour each morning and I felt like …
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