Last week an article in the NY Times Science section took a look at a recent Oxford University study on kissing. How important is kissing? Who kisses the most? Why? The hypothesis that kissing primed couples for sex just didn’t hold up. It seems, that for the most part, kissing was used to assess the …
Continue ReadingSex after cancer.
I see many women who are cancer survivors. Most of them feel that their post cancer sexual selves were never addressed. In fact, many were told, “you should be happy to be alive”, insinuating that they should stop focusing on any sexual dysfunction caused by cancer treatment. It is often very upsetting for them to …
Continue ReadingWhen you’re heart is broken — keep it open.
Everyone will suffer a broken heart at one point in their life. Whether it is the death of a relative, friend, pet or even a relationship. Endings can hurt like hell. Our hearts may feel heavy and broken, as if it has crumbled into bits and pieces. There is a brighter side to heart break …
Continue ReadingAfter the affair: sex again?
Freud once said that when two people make love, there are six people in bed — the couple and their parents. After an affair, add a seventh: the ghost of the lover. Here are some ideas to help you pull your parents and the lover out from under the covers, warm up the space between you, …
Continue ReadingFishing for the right answers.
I recently met a woman complaining of a long history of painful intercourse. Several years ago she finally had the courage to tell her doctor about it. The doctor responded by recommending that she go see a therapist. The woman met with a therapist and was asked all the typical intake questions. When the therapist …
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