As usual I got a great idea from one of my patients today. She and her husband have been struggling sexually. He’s had a hard time holding his erection. She’s having terrible pain every time they have intercourse and like so many other couples they are just plain having difficulty finding time for sex. But…a few months ago they decided that once a week they would just have “naked hour.” I asked what that meant and she said that at least once a week they try to set aside time alone — and naked — with no cell phone, no TV, no computer. They climb into bed, naked and just hang out that way. “Sometimes we have sex. And sometimes we don’t” she said. “But we always feel really good about spending some intimate time together. We cuddle, we stroke, we talk and not surprisingly we actually often end up having sex.” I love the idea. And I love the name even more. So here’s something to consider, would “naked hour” work for you and your partner?
Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus is a certified sex therapist and the Clinical Director of Maze Women’s Sexual Health, one of the largest centers for women’s sexual health in the country. Dr. Marcus wrote her dissertation on women and vibrator use while earning her Doctor of Philosophy in human sexuality from the Institute of Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She also has a Master’s in public health from the same institution. She is a licensed social worker with a Master’s degree from Columbia University. Dr. Marcus has worked as the executive director of not-for-profit institutions and corporations, medical practices and laboratories. In addition to being featured in a NY Times article, she is a frequent guest on radio, podcasts and has lectured both nationally and overseas on a wide variety of women's issues.