Choosing the right vibrator can be intimidating. Where can I purchase one? Do I have to go into a sex toy shop? What if someone I know sees me there?! I’m not even sure what I want.
First off, if you’re reading this then you’ve already decided to try a vibrator. Bravo for you! Either you’re interested in bringing your sex life to another level with your partner or on your own, or you’re attempting to help yourself resolve a possible issue you’re having with sex and orgasm. Either way, you’ve taken an empowering step in achieving what you want and need in your sex life. Vibrators can help you to orgasm, or orgasm more quickly, or make your orgasms stronger. Bravo again!
Sex toy shops may seem awkward or uncomfortable to some, but once inside many appear like a typical store with displays and helpful and knowledgeable sales people. In New York City, there are sex toys shops run by women, for women which also paves the way for easier inquiries.
But if you are still nervous about going into a store, you can always go online. Sites like www.adameve.com or www.babeland.com offer quality products in a respectful online environment. Surprisingly, even sites like www.amazon.com offer vibrators and lubricants. And you can browse for as long as you like.
There are many different types of vibrators. Some are meant to go inside the vagina, others are meant to go on the clitoris. They come either with batteries or get plugged into an electric socket. So you have to ask yourself: which would I prefer? There are also vibrators that would be considered “multifunctional” which offers both clitoral stimulation AND stimulation in the vagina. If it is your first time using a vibrator, experience is the best test: you may just have to try different types until you find which one you like the best.
In our practice at the Medical Center for Female Sexuality, we have many different types of vibrators for women to touch and see so they get an idea of what they may like, without just looking at pictures. And we’re working on some plans for sharing helpful information with our patients and their friends on success with sex, including the use of vibrators. Comment below if you think this is a good idea. Would you come to a medical center and attend a seminar like this? I’d like to know what you think.