[kiala2021]

@mazemelissa, do you have a source for your statement? Cause I tend to agree with Mark2021, I’ve never heard this could cause prostatitis before. Priests don’t masturbate, for instance, and they surely don’t all end up with prostatitis. Plenty of men don’t do it either for religious reasons. When the pressure gets too high, men usually get a nocturnal emission.

[kiala2021]

Very informative, thanks!

[kiala2021]

Food for thought, indeed! And @mazemelissa is right, lots of attention is given here on this board towards therapy. But therapy isn’t the ONLY valid solution.

[kiala2021]

I’ve done some research.

A study called “Female Sexual Dysfunction: Therapeutic Options and Experimental Challenges” states that 40% of women experience sexual dysfunction, and about 70% of that group has difficulties in achieving an orgasm – most of them never get one. The study states the same reasons as @recessivegenequeen: when sex hurts, you are less likly to have a positive attitude towards sexuality and this makes you less motivated to have orgasms.

By the way, women in *general* often have a hard time reaching a climax. Only 6 percent of women always have an orgasm during sex with a partner (I found this in a study called “Determinants of female sexual orgasms”). That is an astonishing low number!

What’s more: at the age of 24, about 30% of all women NEVER had an orgasm. “In general women masturbate less frequently and start at a later age” when compared to men. (source: National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior)

I think it’s fair to say women still have a long way to go when it comes to orgasms.

[kiala2021]

Thanks for sharing the technique.

[kiala2021]

What I was 15 or 16 some girls in my class started using tampons and I often heard them warning the other classmates that it hurts when you remove your first tampon, so I guess that lots of teens find them difficult to insert and remove. I’m sure that if you have pain when using tampons this can cause vaginismus. On the other hand, if you already have vaginismus, this will certainly make tampon usage painful as well. I don’t think you can tell what came first.

[kiala2021]

Heather is right, an average vagina is only 5 inch deep, so every inch more is wasted. I can certainly understand why bigger isn’t always better!

[kiala2021]

I think there is a study that shows a link, I’ll look it up.

[kiala2021]

This more or less corresponds with what my therapist told me. These numbers are depressing because this means a lot of women suffer in silence (or don’t have sex or are living alone, that might be an option too).

[kiala2021]

I was told sexual excitement helps the dilation process because of the lubrication and the fact the vagina “opens up” when you’re aroused, but I was always explicitly told to stop stimulation whenever I felt it was getting too intense.

[kiala2021]

Amen to this. My therapist told me not even 5% of all women who suffer from vaginismus, actually do something about it! That’s insane!

[kiala2021]

I think you should be careful not to create fear as well, I mean, you could tell her the first time she has sex it can be painful and that it’s normal, but I’d not go into too much details when it comes to vaginismus. Just tell her if it keeps on hurting, she has to talk to you about this.

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