Wow. I am speechless. Thank you so much for sharing this here. Women are not taught about their very unique bodies. Boys and girls are given the same, basic education about our bodies and sex but there is so much more to it than that. They teach us that the penis goes in the vagina and that’s it. There’s no education on the surrounding muscles around the vagina, or vaginismus, or WHY we might feel pain or tightness during penetrative sex. This really is sad to look at. Maybe the future will be different and this will be more discussed!
This more or less corresponds with what my therapist told me. These numbers are depressing because this means a lot of women suffer in silence (or don’t have sex or are living alone, that might be an option too).
Thanks so much for sharing, Theresa! It really is sad and rings true to me – as women we just aren’t taught or encouraged to speak up about our pain or discomfort in sexual situations. So much of our programming is around being docile and agreeable, even when we’re suffering greatly.
This article I found really eye-opening and goes more into detail about this phenomenon: