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My heart breaks for you as well reading this post. You are an incredibly amazing person to have endured so much and to still be standing. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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Thank you 23. 🙂 I can definitely relate to your feelings. Im so sorry that when you spoke up, you were let down. But I think you are amazing to keep persisting despite the extra hurdle- you will be stronger for it. It’s kind of weird but it took this whole event for me to really acknowledge the underlying pain I was feeling the most- shame. I guess I was trying so hard to get past everything and tried to convince myself I should be fine already! Now that I have faced it though, I feel like I am starting to properly heal from the last few years. I still have a lot to work through, but am getting there! Be encouraged and don’t give up! 🙂

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I just saw this message Janet. Thank you so much. I don’t know what my husband and I would have done, had we not come across Dr Pacik and yourself. You are such a selfless and amazing wife to support your husband the way you do, and to allow him to commit so much of your lives to helping us overcome vaginismus. You both are a true gift from God and I cannot thank both of you enough.

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It doesn’t seem all that long ago that I was emailing you about Vaginismus and the treatment you were about to have- and now look where you are. Isn’t it amazing how God can turn things around and use incredible people like the Pacik’s and his team. All the best Allie. xoxo

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Hi Katie,

I too am from Australia and looked into getting the treatment you had (was it the clinic in Brisbane?). At the same time I came across Dr Pacik’s treatment, and realised his treatment was way more suited to my level of vaginismus. My husband and I flew to the states in December 2012, and while it has been an incredibly long journey is so many ways, we were finally able to achieve intercourse 6 months after Dr Pacik’s treatment. My vaginimus was quite severe, and therefore my treatment has been rather long, but I would so encourage you to consider Dr Pacik’s methods, as with the support of him, his wife and his team, I have made 1000 times more progress than any other treatment. If you would like to ask me any more questions, I am happy to provide you with my email. All the best, Possum 🙂

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Hi Bosox,

I really want to encourage you to not lose heart or be too tough on yourself. The process to full recovery for vaginismus can be slow! Well it has been for me. It was just over 6 months after the procedure before my husband and I were able to achieve intercourse, and even now, it is still an incredibly slow process. One thing that keeps me going is knowing, that no matter how long the journey is, every small step forward, (no matter how small), is still further from where I was. It has now been 15 months since my surgery, and i’m nowhere near where I was hoping to be, as sex is still not completely pain free or regular, but when I consider where I was before the surgery, where I couldn’t have penetration of ANY KIND, or even properly clean myself, things that may seem small in comparison to the ultimate goal of having regular, enjoyable, pain free sex, are actually quite monumental. I too have felt that I just want to be cured and completely over this already, but the truth is, vaginimus does so much damage in so many way, and for some, it is going to take more time to heal from that, and we can’t beat ourselves up for it. You wouldn’t punish someone with a disease because they took longer to respond to treatment, and I don’t see vaginismus as any different. I’ve had so many up’s and down’s over the last year, but what amazes me is we can still keep moving forward, (and even take steps backwards at times) but I remind myself, that I’ve made it this far, so I’m not gonna give up now! Hang in there. xo

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You are all so lovely. Your encouragement and prayers means a lot. You are also incredible examples of perseverance- thank you for sharing your journeys. I love how something that used to isolate me so much and make me feel so alone, is now a thing of the past- there is so much power in speaking up and coming together to encourage one another. While my journey is only just beginning as an overcomer of vaginismus, I know I am not alone anymore and I so hope one day that my experiences can encourage others and help others that felt as alone and worthless as I did, to find freedom from vaginismus. I cannot say thank you enough to Dr Pacik, Janet and the rest of the team for what you do- you are truly changing lives. This forum truly is a blessing!

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Thank you! I really appreciate your encouragement. 🙂

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Thank you for the replies. 🙂 A few months on and we are slowly making small progress- it’s a difficult situation as we live very remote (11 hours drive to the closest city) and have no support network. My husband suffered severe depression, which his doctor attributed to his low libido (I also think it was due to having to force himself to be numb for so long). However we are moving at the end of the year to the city where we can both get regular counselling and we’ll be seeing a sexual therapist to help us transition mentally and emotionally even though the physical side of things has improved. Despite it not being as smooth a journey as some post procedure, I keep reminding myself that where we are now is so far from where we were and for that I am very thankful.

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See you soon girls! We leave Australia tomorrow for my upcoming treatment. Safe travels!

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Thanks Heather, I really appreciate your prayers. We leave Australia this coming Saturday for the US. I can’t wait. We’re arriving in Boston on the 8th- can’t believe its coming around so quickly! I woke up this morning and was like… Oh my gosh we’re going to be in America in week’s time! I’ve been so busy preparing, and now it’s only a short time away! I’m feeling really positive about everything- I know I am going to overcome vagnismus! Still pretty nervous of course, but ready! Having this forum has helped so much- there is so much power in knowing you are no longer alone. 🙂

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Hi freespirit. My husband and I leave for the US in a month for my treatment on the 11th! I remember thinking the same as you- I purchased dilators after advice from a gynaecologist almost a year ago but have yet to even take them out of the bag. After reading success after success story on here I know I am going to overcome! I still get a little freaked out about dilators but I keep being reassured that they under anesthetic are key to our success and I know it will be!

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Wow!!! So awesome Allie! So happy for you and your husband! 🙂 praise God!

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I’m sorry you are having to go through the anxiety attacks, I will be praying for you Allie. You will get through this. You’ve come so far already and should be so proud of yourself. 🙂

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I’m so glad for you. You will do amazing! I hope the time goes quickly for you and will keep you in my prayers!

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