[Hope]

Thank you for all your support and advice, I have reached so far only because of this forum, before this I was even scared of tampon, now I am able to dilate with No 6.
Hopefully one day I could achieve intercourse.

[Hope]

Thank you for your advice.
Don’t know how to overcome this nervousness when I am used to of glass dilator 6 even and can use no. 7 half way.
Still not successful what a shame🙁
No position seems working.

[Hope]

Thanks for the reply.
I think I have issue with understanding best position.
Does women on top really work? For first time?

[Hope]

Hi,
I have already achieved dilating with no 6 glass dilator, my partner is around no 6 as well, I find it really hard to use dilator 7 to go one size larger than him,even I tried hard but not stretching more than 6.
We have been Trying for actual intercourse with no success.
Not sure what is the issue but I have been dilating with no 6 glass dilator daily and stretched enough but still can’t make it.
Please any suggestions.

[Hope]

hello,

i have glass and silicon dilators .

but which ones are more muscles stretching ? any advice please

[Hope]

thank you,

1 minute for dilator 5 seems quite fast 🙂
in your experience how much dilation hours daily needed to get that stage?

[Hope]

Hi,

i had this long standing vaginismus for 10 years of my life..
(thankful to Dr Pacik , Heather and other moderators on this forum who guided me to understand my condition, although i never met them)

Everything was same as you have described with your partner. i went to all doctors , hypnotherapists etc with no solutions.i also had botox procedure for this condition in 3 episodes.(but one episode is enough if one is dilating daily)

in 2015 ,with hymen incision , was not guided at all for the dilation programme.
in 2016 ,when i had some knowledge of this procedure but left dilation after few days , (lost motivation)

and in 2017 , when i learnt from past mistakes/experiences and immediate after botox procedure i never left dilation for a single day , the result of this daily dilation was that i was able to dilate upto number 6 dilator , very large glass dilator designed by Dr . Pacik, this dilator was really less painful then other dilators and gave me much confidence to have sex with my partner as he was around dilator number 5.(so was successful finally)

what i want to say is VAGINISMUS IN CURABLE if you will support her ….
get this botox procedure done , she should not leave dilation for a single day for couple of weeks.
keeps dilator in and out most of the time , i used to take this glass dilator out only when i wanted to go toilet or bath etc or few hours break in a day then used to put it back…
the idea behind it
1) physically vagina was stretched 2) mentally i gained much confidence.

i can understand your pain but more i can understand the pain and constant suffering of your partner , trust me she needs your help!!

i had a very loving but angry partner too, who decided to leave me on several occasions for sex but then his love and emotions for me did not let him do that , i had this botox procedure done in London, and learnt that dilatation daily is the key unless vagina is stretched enough to put one size larger than partner and you will see that within few weeks , she will be able to have sex with you after this procedure if she dilates daily.

your relationship will be more stronger when you will be understanding her mental and physical pain , forgive her and give her a new chance as she is your soul mate.

[Hope]

Thank you so much Melissa,

I am still on my journey but have covered so many miles already on this road of vaginismus,
at least i start my day with morning coffee , then my dilators set and what is new on this maze site which gives me more positive energy and confidence.

i am sure that you and your team is helping and educating millions through this site.

Twinkle

[Hope]

Hello girls,

I’m on size 5 of silicon dilator but don’t know how to move to practical intercouse.
Still find myself nervous. Any advice will be helpful. Thanks

[Hope]

Hi Daisy

Gynecosmetics in London offer reasonable prices, contact Dr. Joe Daniels.

[Hope]

Hi Heather,

how r u.

and thanks for your support, unfortunately in UK when i had botox procedure ,it was not followed up with a proper dilation programme. so if you are helping anyone through this forum regarding botox, i think the best advice will be the treatment in states.

yes , i am still keeping the routine of dilating with the tiny dilator everyday with hopes to be successful one day.
i really want to control my anxiety and really struggle with this at the moment.

[Hope]

Heather thank you for your advice , as I mentioned that i am restarting dilation after 8 months therefore have problem with entry muscle, I m using aquagel with it but still really painful.

I have a long term problem of vaginismus for past 10 years , I have been to doctors and hypnotherapy centres but not helpful,wasted so much time and money in silence.so u can well understand what I have been through entire my life and you can imagine what I m not saying.

I heard regarding botox and went to the gynea centre to Dr eskander in UK and paid a huge bill 2 years ago but what went wrong that I was only injected botox and was advised to go home and was free to have painfree intercourse. nobody ever informed me regarding dilation programme.
As after botox I immediately jumped for intercourse hence I was failed…

Last year when I browsed Dr pacik’s dilators programme ,at that stage , i started dilation on my own for few months but without botox (obvously could not afford it again).I left dilation due to emotional and physical strain in may .

But through this site I have now so much knowledge, courage to discuss my problem that I have decided to dilate again.
This site has made me realized that I m not alone and I’m not crazy. Hopeful to fight policy not flight policy this time 🙇

I m really grateful for your advice so far. Bless you xx

[Hope]

Thank you all for replying , I am really grateful for your support and advice.

Heather, I am still struggling and trying , and wish not to loose and disappoint myself .fingers crossed.

[Hope]

Heather thank you for your reply and support.

really nervous , all previous effort is gone wasted and have to start again after long break.

yes i have Amelie, Pure Romance and Glass dilators in front of me 🙂 wish me courage.xx

[Hope]

Hi Heather,

i started dilation 8 months ago but was so emotionally and physically tired that i gave up and now composing myself to restart dilation again…

Any tips to dilate after long break ? as i feel like never dilated before in life now and starting again from zero.

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