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August 24, 2017 at 10:17 am #21756HopeParticipant
Any Advice from dilator 5 to actual intercourse?
Although i can put glass dilator 5 with some push and practice in 5 to 10 minutes but find it really hard for actual sex as muscles are tight.
Does this mean i have to wait till i am really loose or stretched ?August 24, 2017 at 10:53 am #21757mazemelissaModerator
If the glass dilator 5 is bigger than your partner, then you might be ready.
If you partner is bigger than the glass dilator 5, then he might still have trouble penetrating. And I would continue dilation and ensure that you can insert something larger than your partner.
I would also try to practice with the glass dilator, more swift penetration. Ideally you want to be able to pass the dilator through the vaginal opening within a minute. Since it is difficult for most partners to maintain an erection for much longer than a few minutes without penetration.
Keep it up, you are doing great!August 24, 2017 at 12:16 pm #21758HopeParticipant
1 minute for dilator 5 seems quite fast 🙂
in your experience how much dilation hours daily needed to get that stage?October 5, 2017 at 4:32 pm #21941Sks823Participant
consistency is key – 15 min every couple days (so 3 or 4 times a week) has worked for me! I pass through vaginal opening multiple times during my dilating sessions to help get used to the feeling, and it gets easier each time!
Hope this helps.October 6, 2017 at 11:15 am #21947recessivegenequeenParticipant
Seconded on the consistency point – I dilated every day after the procedure until I was able to have intercourse, and kept it up every day after that for awhile until I was really comfortable with and enjoyed having sex. I think either my method (every day) or Sks823’s (3-4 times a week) would work, though I will say that knowing I had to do at least SOME dilating every single day helped me to be consistent, because I couldn’t make excuses to myself like “I’m tired” or “I’ll do it tomorrow” even though I really wanted to.
Inserting and taking out the dilator several times in a session is the best way to see results without spending a ton of time, like Sks823 says. It’s the hard part, so that’s where the real gains can be made!
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