[sweetiani]

Hi godawgs13,

I understand how you feel and couldn’t insert a q-tip when I first found out I had vaginismus. I used dilators for many years and made some progress but not enough to have full penetration during intercourse. It wasn’t until I had Dr. Pacik’s botox procedure that I was able to have intercourse. I used the dilators 30 min to 1 hr before we tried each time, used lots of lubrication, and used a bullet vibrator on my clitoris to help relax the muscles. When we decided to get pregnant, I quickly conceived – that was the easy part! I bought a Clearblue Fertility Monitor from Costco online and on my fertile days, we tried to get pregnant. It helps to have an orgasm after the semen is inserted. Then I put my legs up against the bed wall for 30 min afterwards to help the sperm travel faster to the egg.

Don’t give up! It takes lots of patience but it’s worth it at the end. There are solutions out there that work and it’s helped cure many of us. I still cringe each time I go in for a vaginal exam but I just gave birth to a healthy baby boy 2 weeks ago and have gone a long way. If it’s possible for me, it’s possible for you too! Good luck!

[sweetiani]

Hi Coffee, you are not alone. I remember the transition to intercourse was difficult and scary for me also. What really helped me was dilating 30-1 hr each time before we tried and that helped alot because it stretched out the muscles down there. I would take it out a second before he tries to go in. Also, to help relax the muscles, I bought a bullet vibrator from Amazon.com and put it on my clitoris. That helped tremendously…and also helped me get an orgasm too at the end since it’s not easy getting one from the penis. I used a ton of lubrication (Astroglide) and we turned on the music and lit candles. It helps to start slowly and transition to full penetration. Maybe the first time you can start with the genitals touching, followed by slight insertion the next time, etc. You are not on a timeline and don’t need to successfully have full penetration the first try. Take it easy and try not to think about it too much as stress makes the muscles more tense. Hope this info helps and good luck!

[sweetiani]

I just gave birth 2 weeks ago and would like to share my experience as well with the vaginal exams. The first one I had at the OB office was the transvaginal ultrasound. This is the only one where the device has to be inserted vaginally. You have the option to opt out and wait for the abdominal ultrasound later. It was slightly painful…I would say similar to a papsmear. Once it went past the muscles, it was fine…I told the nurse about my vaginismus condition and she was very understanding and went slowly.

A cotton swab sample was taken in the beginning of pregnancy and also the last trimester for group b strep test. That procedure was not so bad and not very painful. The metal clasps were not used so that helped a lot.

The cervical exams during the last month is painful. Many OBs, like mine, like to schedule one every week for the last month of pregnancy. You have the option to opt out and that’s what I did until the very end. My friends who did not have vaginismus told me it was a painful procedure and they bled afterwards so I did lots of web research. I found out that the cervical exam is meant to tell the OB if your cervix has dilated and if it’s effaced. The thing is, there is higher chance of infection each time you do this procedure and it doesn’t really tell you much. You can be 4cm dilated one day and not go into labor for another 2 months, or you can be 0 cm dilated and go into labor the next day. Because it can’t help predict labor and there are more risks than benefits, I didn’t think it was necessary to suffer through it every week. I decided to get it done the day before I decided to get induced. It was indeed painful and I did bleed a whole pad full of blood 4 hrs after the procedure. I was not dilated at all and was 70% effaced on my due date.

As a result of my cervical exam and me wanted to get induced, I decided to get the cervidil treatment the night before my scheduled induction. I have to say this procedure is super painful! I would not go through it again. Not only do the nurse’s fingers have to go up to the cervix, she has to insert this cervidil item next to the cervix to help it dilate. I would not recommend this for vaginismus patients.

Unfortunately, I ended up having to get a c-section because the baby was in a head top, feet bottom position. The experience was actually very pleasant. The spinal anesthesia was not that painful and I would do 100 of those in exchange for 1 cervidil treatment! The spinal anesthesia felt like a warm gush of liquid flowing through my body and was very comfortable and relaxing. I just laid there and within 20 minutes, I saw my baby. The OB even had a chance to observe my ovaries and internal organs while I was cut up to make sure everything looked normal. I really wanted a vaginal delivery but the c-section worked out well too.

Hope this info helps!

[sweetiani]

Hi Lifi,

Congrats on your pregnancy! I just gave birth 2 weeks ago but I had to have c-section because the baby was in a breech position (head top, feet bottom). I did read that a perineal massage helps prevent tear and you can include that on your birth plan. My friends that had rips said it wasn’t very painful and they recommend the “earth mama angel baby bottom balm” for recovery: http://www.amazon.com/Earth-Mama-Angel-Baby-2-Ounce/dp/B0021HR94K/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1365658580&sr=8-1&keywords=earth+mama+baby+bottom+balm.

Good luck!

[sweetiani]

Hi, I just gave birth to a baby boy two weeks ago and when I tried to get pregnant, I used Astroglide. I didn’t like KY because it was thick and got sticky once dried up. Astroglide felt more natural like water to me.

My friends recommended pre-seed which is highly recommended for trying to conceive because it doesn’t kill sperms. I was lucky I got pregnant before needing to try it. Here’s the website: http://www.preseed.com/index.html. Hope that helps!

[sweetiani]

I agree overcoming vaginismus was the difficult part! I had lots of luck with getting pregnant and just gave birth to a baby boy 2 weeks ago! We pretty much got pregnant the first two months we tried. We got the Clearblue fertility monitor from Costco that predicts ovulation and I drank lots of raspberry leaf tea to be more fertile. After ejaculation, I tried to have an orgasm immediately which helps the sperm move to the egg faster (I used a small bullet vibrator from Amazon on my clitoris to help speed up the process) and kept my legs up against the wall while still laying in bed for 30 minutes afterwards. These were the “tricks” I used and I immediately got pregnant!

Good luck ladies! You can do it!

[sweetiani]

I was treated for vaginismus 3 years ago and we tried getting pregnant with the clearblue fertility monitor last year. Almost immediately, I got pregnant and just gave birth 2 weeks ago. I wanted a vaginal birth but the baby was in a breeched position (head top, feet bottom) so I had to get c-section. I haven’t tried intercourse yet but am hopeful that I am still vaginismus-free. The OB recommends trying intercourse after the 6th week.

Thanks!

[sweetiani]

I just went through pregnancy and just gave birth 2 weeks ago. I read that it is not recommended to have intercourse the first two trimesters of pregnancy so I avoided dilation until the third trimester. My OB mentioned to me that after the 6th week following delivery, I can dilate or have intercourse again.

Hope that helps!

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