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Dr. Pacik,

I have mixed motions on news of your retirement. On the one hand, I’m extremely excited that you and Janet will be starting a new adventure together in this next chapter of your lives. On the other hand, I’m saddened that you will no longer be extending your incredible care & compassion of service to other Vaginismus sufferers like myself. I honestly have no idea where I myself or where my marriage would be today without all that you, Janet and your team invested into our lives and through your treatment program. My life and marriage were forever changed because of your heart for women like us and being willing to take the risk on implementing a treatment program that is so rare to find and making it your mission to spread awareness. Even though that little muscle still likes to give me a run for my money every now and then – because of your program, all your counsel, countless emails and phone calls – I now have the courage, the wisdom and the tools to keep this condition from rearing it’s ugly head again.

As of recently, my husband and I have started to meet with an RE at a local fertility clinic. Even with being able to achieve intercourse for several months now, we still have been unable to get pregnant – but there’s NO WAY I would have had the courage before to take one step inside the clinic’s doors, had it not been for all the courage and confidence I gained through your program! A couple weeks ago, I had my first internal ultrasound with no issues whatsoever – freakin amazing!

My earnest prayer is that someone will soon come forward to be your successor to carry on this amazing ministry that you and Janet have started. You’ve changed so many lives, saved so many marriages and became a “grandfather” to so many little ones. I seriously applaud you and we genuinely love you guys and wish you all the best.

Sincerely & gratefully, Kimberly (“ROOOOOAAAARR!!!)

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Olivia!! I think of you and Nicole often! Our 1 year anniversary is just around the corner – how have you both been doing?! I would love to exchange emails and/or phone numbers and catch up on life in general. I just feel like meeting you two was such a gift and I don’t want to lose the chance to keep in touch! Hope you’re both doing well!!

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Amen!!

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Congrats JessBee!! I love getting notified in my email of new patients and their overcoming fear and experiencing the joy and excitement from getting the procedure – it is TRULY life changing!

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23years, thank you for sharing such an incredible story! I have no doubt that this procedure is going to change your life! Wow, I look forward to reading more updates on your journey to full & complete healing 😉

Kim

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So amazing Possum! What an incredible testimony – but such a painful journey at the same time. God is so faithful, even when we lose all hope. Thank you so much for sharing your story!

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I don’t mind saying where I live – I’m down in Nashville, TN 😉 Any other Southerners nearby want to try & meet up? I hope bosox2004 that you get some ladies interested – sounds like an awesome & encouraging thing!

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I wished I lived in your area, I would totally meet up with you!

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Sunny85 – try finding a physical therapist in your area that specializes in pelvic floor disorders. I saw an amazing PT for quite a while and I wouldn’t have been able to take the next step with Dr. Pacik without first building my confidence enough with a great PT.

It looks like there’s a couple places that might be a good resource for you in Atlanta at:
http://www.sportsrehabcenter.com/services/womens-health-pelvic-floor-dysfunction/
or
http://www.centerforfemalesexuality.com/vaginismus.php – also seems to have some options available for physical therapy, counseling ect.

Good luck!
Kim

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Wow what a well-written story! I’m so glad you discovered Dr. Pacik and that you’re procedure is scheduled for next month – congratulations!

-Kim

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Hey Sunny85,

You found the right place to go just by being brave enough to post here and introducing yourself. 😉 I too struggled with pain during arousal – those darn PC muscles just have a mind of their own to say the least.

Take some time to read up on all the info here on the forum and also on the regular website for Dr. Pacik, in fact – ORDER the book he wrote! It will encourage you greatly and will give you hope and direction on the next steps.

I actually live in Nashville – so you’re not alone in this journey, distance-wise or emotionally.

Hang in there.

-Kim

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177 Days Post-Procedure and we FINALLY achieved full penetration. I’m not exactly one of your quickest success stories, but alas I finally got there 😉

Today is day 183 and we’ve had full penetration intercourse 3 times this last week!!!!! As much as I want to be discouraged that it’s not exactly painless or spontaneous and feels quite mechanical, it’s still a MASSIVE milestone in our 8 year marriage! The first EVER!! I think the biggest thing that we’re discovering (and I do mean “big”) is that Jason was a bit too modest by thinking he was between a 5 and 6 dilator size. (Um yeah not so much.) So transitioning from a size 6, even after dilating for 1 hour beforehand has not been easy, because I swear Jason is more of a size 7. (*sigh* – really Lord?)

So for those of you who are taking the longer route like we have – hang in there and don’t give up. Our bodies are all different and as much as I wish I would have been one of the ones that achieved pain-free intercourse weeks after my procedure, I still am MILES from where I was 183 days ago. Since we went to see Dr. Pacik on November 11, our marriage has grown stronger, more intimate, more trusting and more open. I’ve had to lean on Jason in ways that this proud girl struggled with a lot at first. And Jason feels much more involved in the process and confident with knowing what his role is in my treatment process. I was at the end of my rope with how I was feeling mentally as a woman and as a wife – this procedure saved my marriage, my sanity and my life. I know that sounds super dramatic, but there were definitely some dark days leading up to my decision to have the procedure and I knew if I didn’t do something drastic and face my greatest fears this condition was going to take over my life completely and I didn’t want to live like that anymore.

All that to say – this is a journey I wouldn’t trade for anything and would recommend to anyone facing this struggle.

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I’m sorry Bosox you’re feeling so crappy tonight. I sure do know how you feel. Even though I’ve experienced some penetration, I’m not “cured” yet either and tomorrow marks our 4 months post-procedure. Hang in there and don’t give up! You’ve come so far and fought so hard to be where you are today. You are not the same woman you started out as 5 months ago, just be patient with your body, I’m in the same boat!

I’m sending some prayers your way.

-Kim

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Lol! I thought that would give you a good laugh Dr. Pacik!

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A little update on me – I’m 113 days post-procedure and last night was able to insert my husband’s penis inside (well 3/4’s of it anyway). This is the most progress we’ve EVER made and our second attempt at penetration since I had the procedure in November. As long as this journey has been, every milestone we make is hugely exciting for us. There is a lingering fear that once I hit my 4 month mark post-procedure that the Botox will wear off and the spasms will come back with a vengeance. There’s also a fear that sex will never be comfortable or allow much movement, as any movement even with the dilators can be painful at times. I’m so hoping that my muscles continue to stretch and we continue to see success. This journey has truly been full of many ups and downs for us, but we’ve never given up and we’re excited for what this year holds for us in terms of our renewed intimacy with one another and a deepened trust.

I feel like we’re on the cusp of a major breakthrough and I’m more than ready for it!!

Sidenote – as we were working on transitioning last night, Jason said the thing that kept running through his mind on a continual loop was Dr. Pacik’s gentle reminders from our counseling day, “Now Jason (as he holds up the Blue Dilator and looks over the rim of his glasses), DO NOT thrust once inside Kimberly….nooo thrusting.” lol! I kid you not, Jason said that Dr. Pacik was on a loop in his mind saying, “Now Jason…no thrusting.”

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