[hopejones]

Hey spiritcandy,
I’ve found that waxing has been the most convenient grooming method for me. I tend to go get waxed ever 4 to 6 weeks. I’ve also found that over time less and less hair tends to grow back. The hair doesn’t grow back as fast and i don’t get ingrown hairs nearly as often as with shaving. Hard wax is definitely the best for this area. Let me know if you have any other questions 🙂

[hopejones]

I have been very open with those around me about vaginismus. I don’t want anyone to have to go through what I went through. If I can help one person by being open about this condition I will have accomplished something good. Vaginismus is nothing to be ashamed of. I have tried using humor and a sense of light-heartedness when it comes to dealing with vaginismus. I would say that 95% of the people (men and women) have been understanding and interested in learning more about vaginismus.

[hopejones]

Looking back on my stay at Dr. Pacik’s office I definitely think that having someone there on the first day is crucial. On the second day however, I spent most of it alone and definitely benefited from that. I didn’t have anyone with me which meant I had to take care of myself (with a little help from Dr. P’s staff of course) for the most part. I truly believe this helped me progress as fast as I did. I didn’t have anyone distracting me or anyone to do things for me so I just did what I had to do. Hope this helps 🙂

[hopejones]

I would be more than happy to talk to anybody about the procedure by phone, email or Skype. I had the procedure done on January 11th of this year and have had great success since.

[hopejones]

Using silicone based lube has helped me tremendously when it comes to the dilator getting stuck in the morning. I haven’t had any problems since switching from water based to silicone based.

[hopejones]

I usually sleep on my side with a pillow between my legs and this seems to help. Also, if i’m laying on my back I’ll usually put a pillow under me. I use LOTS of lube and wear tight underwear. Hope this helps!

[hopejones]

(1) Trust Dr. Pacik and his team, they are outstanding and are there for you every step of the way.
(2) Communicate with those around you as well and the staff at the clinic. Communicate with your partner, they want you to get better as much as you do. Communicate with those around you, vaginismus is nothing to be ashamed of and you never know if someone you know is suffering from the same thing. Dr. P and his staff are there to answer questions and comfort you during this whole process.
(3) Stay informed by doing research so you can be as comfortable as possible going into the procedure.

[hopejones]

I personally like the silicone based lubricant for dialating at night. I use KY jelly for sensitive skin and I really like it. The water based one would tend to get absorbed throughout the night and make it difficult to remove the dialator in the morning. It may be just personal preference but I thought I would put it out there.

[hopejones]

My name is Jessica Jones, I’m 21 years old and I’ve suffered from vaginismus for about 2 years. The road to finding Dr. Pacik was long but well worth it. I saw several gynecologists, physical therapists, and psychotherapists over the last 2 years and no one seamed to be able to help me. Throughout the process I was fortunate to have a very understanding boyfriend and a very open family. I was able to talk about my problem with all of them though no one knew what the problem was. One morning I decided I was done suffering, I was determined to find a cured and I DID! I found Dr. Pacik’s website and called as soon as they opened in the morning. Sue answered my call and offered to send me the paperwork to get “the ball rolling” in a sense. After several weeks of trying to convince my mom that this was the answer we had been looking for I scheduled my appointment for December 12, 2011. I was so excited, if it had been up to me I would have been on a plane heading to New Hampshire the same day. On December 11th my mother, aunt and I travelled to New Hampshire from Montreal. On December 12th I woke up eager to get to Dr. Pacik’s office. Once there, I met with Ellen, Dr. Pacik, and the anesthesiologist, within the next hour I was in the operating room. I remember waking up in the recovery room and thinking ‘this is really over, I’m cured.’ For the next couple hours we practiced dialation. I was sent back to my hotel room with the puple dialator and slept with it in place. The next day I returned to the office for more dialation and group therapy. I was told that I didn’t have to return on the 3rd day. Since the procedure I have slept with the purple dialator almost every night. I’ve tried sleeping with the pink one but it tends to get uncomfortable during the night. 11 days after the procedure i was able to have intercourse, I cried but this time it wasn’t because it was hurting unbearably, it was because I knew I had been cured from vaginismus. Dr. Pacik and his team are brilliant, and I will be forever grateful for what they have done for me and women with the same condition. In a sense I think I dealt with vaginismus light heartedly and like with a lot of things in life I was able to laugh about it (most of the time). I truly believe laughter is the best medicine, it got me through the last 2 years and in particular the 2 days I spent at Dr. Pacik’s office. I take any opportunity I have to inform others about the condition and have done so from the beginning. If anyone has any questions for me I would be more than happy to correspond with you by email or phone.

On another note, Dr. Pacik and his staff are simply outstanding. From my very first call with Sue to the actual procedure, and afterwards they have been like family. Thank-you, for all the hard work you put into helping all of us overcome vaginismus. It is apparent that Dr. Pacik takes his work to heart and as a patient that can be so comforting.

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