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Hi BG- I also am in my 50’s….I haven’t posted for a very long time. i am 53….and also have a phobia of medical procedures;therefore have not attempted to be treated. I have been, on &off, following some posts and especially now when i got an email that Dr.Pacik is retiring…congratulations Dr.pacik-you deserve it.
I have gotten now after almost a year to where my pelvic therapist can insert finger and do vag massage/myofascial release whereas before I could not even have her approach me.
I believe,BG, just like Nakitalab said, that you can overcome this. Maybe like Nakitalab (if you’re not@menopause yet I apologize)Dr.Pacik may be able to help.

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I understand there is a certain image to uphold.
I understand I don’t fit in here
Posting in the future will be of things
want to hear(read).

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Sure would like an advocate or someone to put up
with me if I do decide to get the procedure.

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Wow, Heather- not sure how to respond. I’ve pretty much read what u posted
but good b/c someone else may have not.

As far as whatever else I wrote does that not matter until I get your procedure…then I won’t be isolated from
the rest of y’all? Still wondering about this…

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Hi m.alex88 : i am single too but postmenopausal. I discovered this site
after googling pain + gyn exam. There was a chance i’d need a D&C but thankfully i don’t.
Never had a relationship but just for regular womans health
mab a lotta women would have the exam.
As far as oral stuff, i’m not very knowledgeable with that
except to say if u mention using that to substitute for sex
mab dr p’s procedure will help u openup ur options. Good luck to you

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I was offered but then i foundout the previous patient
either did nit respond back or doesn’t want to( not sure maybe
info is not positive about me so she may be hesitant???)

Sure would like an advocate or someone to put up
with me if I do decide to get the procedure.

Would I be worth it since I have no mate& am already
postmenopausal? Would it be a waste of time, energy, etc on
everyone’s part?

Is it really worth it?

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thanks for the words,Becca. Seems like although we all are going through the same thing I feel an additional layer of isolation here. I have spoken w/dr.p on the phone but i can’t seem to get thru the fear of several things involved.

thanks too for thinking about me having a rough day…it’s been rough since i found this forum…i actually feel a lot worse than I’ve felt in my life.
Can it be I can’t miss what I never knew?

My WHOLE reason I started was b/c I had some uterine thickening and was thought to possibly need surgery but thank God I don’t. I DO however would like to have a gyn exam at some point since I’m 52,never had an exam,never used a tampon and of course never had sex or any romantic relationship. Just an outsider among outsiders.

Appreciate you.

On a brighter note I still intend on educating people about this. I have to do a project at work so I’m doing it on vaginismus.

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I just had some things to share that I don’t want to embarrass myself
about here. It was somehow brought on by valentine’s day topic.

Hate to be a downer

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Heather34 ru avail off forum( not offline though)?

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I forgot to add: the 70’s song from Helen Reddy
“I am woman( hear me roar)”.

Lotta roaring going on:)since 1975!!

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=MUBnxqEVKlk&feature=kp

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Thankyou to y’all for posting to my question.
Janet: I spoke w/Dr. Pacik today. I am amazed he was so
generous w/his time( especially being on vacation)-he was very helpful.

Nakitalab: thanks for these details as I don’t really know what to expect in the experiential sense.
I’m hoping I can eventually get the courage to go thru w/this. I also have a phobia
of flying & am from Texas so I have to figure that one out, including travelling home!

Hi Haley: Thank you for suggesting i continue to let people know how I feel. That seems OK here
but if/when I get there I’m afraid of being a nuisance…heck I don’t have anyone coming w/me
so the more inconspicuous I am, the better although I realize kinda hard w/this type of thing.

Hi Heather- thank you very much for the anxiety info. I like that it’s wellorganized…I’ve struggled w/anxiety
( fluctuating levels) throughout my life. It’s a genetic gift-lol but so is my general good health which of course
am grateful for. Never had anything major& I’m 52.

I haven’t been on here thanking anyone til now but I wanted to
make sure I let y’all know I do appreciate it very much!!

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“Eternal Flame” http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DPxVIx06_CQ
and http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=GvEcvxvdqeY
“Underneath your clothes”

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Kevin Sharp:”(I’m dying inside)…Nobody knows it but me”

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Hi Olivia. How did u get ur dr. to be so receptive?

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Hi, VERY much appreciate your updates. Although currently not
a candidate for the procedure, Dr. Pacik& staff have allowed me to post(& of course
read& learn). My PT says I have a thickening on one side that may be part of hymen. I’m in my 50’s& just learned what this problem is . Of course I don’t have
relations( sexual or otherwise). Anyhow, she says do deep
breathing& also imagine elevator. Wondering if that may be helpful to you?
Also even though u’ve already had the procedure I’ve heard baclofen may be helpful. Of course check w/ the dr.
My PT asked me to ask my dr about muxing lido, valium, baclofen down there. Problem is I can’t even get past the labia
but it may help you. Thanks again for the updates.

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