[melanie87]

Hi Dr. Pacik,

I just sent you my dilation log. 2 months post-op I’ve now been able to dilate with the 6 silicon pretty comfortably. We attempted tip only intercourse just yesterday and it was amazing! We would have gone all the way but it was hard adjusting to the right angle (we were in missionary position). Hopefully we’ll be able to do full intercourse once we practice more…

I agree with you about the over dilating. I realized that not only was I super sensitive before my menses, but I was also sore from over dilating. I took a small break while on my period and cut down a little bit after resuming. The burning pain went away once my period ended. I’m going to try dilating every other day but as weird as it sounds I think I’m becoming “addicted” to dilating, which is a problem I thought I would never have, considering I’ve been scared of any kind of penetration for most of my life.

I am still seeing a physical therapist, Heather Jeffcoat. She’s wonderful and although her treatment plan is much different from yours, I’ve been incorporating her methods into my dilating plan. Doing both seems to be working well!

[melanie87]

Hi DJ,

I am 1 month post procedure and I too, did not really dilate for the first 2.5 weeks. I was intensely anxious and fearful about any kind of penetration. I couldn’t even dilate in the counseling session the day after the procedure and was pretty much a nervous wreck, watching all the other ladies making it look so easy. Anyways, I’ve now been dilating every day for almost 2 weeks and can insert the #4 pretty easily with minimal discomfort. It’s crazy just thinking that only 10 days ago it took me over an hour to insert #1. I usually have a dilator in for throughout most of the day, and at night, and I’m not sure if it’s safe to have something up there for such long periods of time but I do feel it helping me stretch my muscles. Just today, I had the #4 glass in me and it felt like I had absolutely nothing up there while I was at work.

Do you have a partner helping you at all? My boyfriend has been instrumental in my dilating and this process has been incredibly eye-opening for the both us. It really helps to have someone there and be your set of eyes, letting you know if you’re in the hole or not, making sure you’re pushing at the right angle, pretty much just being your own personal cheerleader – and overtime you’ll start to be more in-tune with your lady parts simply out of habit… That and a vibrator to help relax the muscles. I use the we-vibe and place it on the side of a lip or near the clitoris, and use the “pulsating” setting. I feel it distracts my muscles from clenching and helps soothe any pressure or discomfort. I definitely recommend using one. Also, over the past couple of days, I’ve been learning how to breathe while dilating. Take a big inhale and while releasing an exhale, push the dilator even further. Just remember, we have a higher threshold for pain when we exhale. I recently learned this from a Physical Therapist I started to see, and maybe seeing one yourself might help with the stomach aversion and involuntary muscle clenching. Have you looked into biofeedback? I haven’t done it with my PT yet…not sure if I need to….but I know that it helps break down the vicious cycle of spasms somehow by measuring them, and being able to see them tense up in real-time on a graph. I don’t know too much about it but it seems worth looking in to.

2 weeks ago, I was sobbing crying on my bed thinking I would never be able to dilate… Progress is slow at first but once you get past the initial dilating event, the less difficult and painful it becomes in just a matter of a couple of days. Just take a leap in faith and know that there IS botox in you, and even though your whole body may be in spasm, your vagina entrance may not be as much??

Anyways, keep us updated on how you’re doing. xo

[melanie87]

Hi everyone! I’ll be traveling from Los Angeles to Manchester this weekend for my procedure on 11/10. I’ll be in boston before and New York after. Nothing beats autumn in New England!

Anyways, time seems to be flying by really fast and just recently I started to get really nervous about the whole trip. I too am worried about being put under general anesthesia. Combine that with a fear of needles and the first time being put under… will make quite a nervous wreck right before the procedure. Heather, do you know how long we’ll be sedated for?

Overall, minus the IV and anesthesia, I’m looking forward to the procedure! Trying my best to be positive and not let fear take over 🙂 This will be the beginning of a new exciting chapter in my life and can’t wait to see what the future brings. Hope everyone’s doing well!!

Melanie

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