[Christine_Marie_Sommers85]

Hi Nicole. I use equate personal lubricate Jelly. It is water based though so that could be it. I’m also wondering if I have endometriosis. My boyfriend says I always feel tight but he likes it. I just don’t want to have pain.

[Christine_Marie_Sommers85]

Hi, Thank you. Yes we use lots of lube. I insert lube in me & he also puts lube on himself. He is able to penetrate me. sometimes it hurts, or it’s ok, & sometimes it does feel good. It’s different @ times. Our positions are different @ times too. Missionary, bending over, or sitting on top of him. The bending over is the most painful. I know when he is finally in me, he tries to move me to get into a different position. That does hurt. Sometimes he litterally has to stay in me & not move for my vagina to be comfortable with his penis. I still use my dilator too when we aren’t having sex. It takes a few minutes but I can get the dilator in me & when I do I let it sit in me till my vagina feels ok with it.

[Christine_Marie_Sommers85]

Hi everyone. I’m glad I came over to this topic. My boyfriend are attempting intercourse. He has been able to fully go into me but it’s been painful. I’m reading I should dilate one size bigger then my boyfriends penis. The last dilator I’m on, is the size of his penis. How can I get one extra dilator without buying the full set?

[Christine_Marie_Sommers85]

Hi everyone. My boyfriend & I are still having a lil problem with sex. He can enter me (it still hurts some) but once he is sliding back. It hurts a lot. I’m not sure what I could do to help this out. He was thinking using a dildo to help me practice so my vagina can get use to the feeling of his penis going in me. I’m still using the dilator in the meantime too. Do you guys have any other advice or suggestions?

[Christine_Marie_Sommers85]

Hello everyone. First time I’ve logged in in awhile for 2 reasons. One was I was having difficulties entering the site. Realized I wasn’t typing in my username right & 2. I was under a lot of stress so I was having trouble dilating. I was able to remove myself from it & now dilating is getting easier. The last time I posted I was still dilating on 4. I am now on 6!
My boyfriend decided about a week ago to try and see if he could enter me. He told me to relax, pretend his penis was the dilator and to take my time. He went @ my pace before I knew it.. he was entering me! I didn’t believe him @ first but then I could feel what he meant. I was so thrilled my nerves got the best of me. I was shaking & crying. He wasn’t able to go the whole way in just 1/2 but its a major step, I honestly didn’t know when it was going to happen. I still need to keep dilating which is fine. I am going to keep it up until it’s very successful. My boyfriend is pretty happy this is working & he knew it would esp with lots of positive talk & his supporting actions.

[Christine_Marie_Sommers85]

Thanks so much! My boyfriend is actually really proud of me that I’ve stared on the 5th dilator. He knows positive talk helps with my confidence and it’s making me feel good that he feels proud. I do have a concern, I notice a few days ago I was bleeding while using the dilator. I figured it was because my vagina is trying to open up so I thought that was good but then I got my period. Would that cause it?

[Christine_Marie_Sommers85]

Hi Heather…so sorry to hear about your son. Glad he is doing better though. I unfortunately can’t get the Botox treatment but i am trying to find ways to make dilation easier on me. But writing it down sounds like a good idea & thanks for your support. There are time I don’t want to tell my boyfriend what size dilator I am on because of frustration. But he told me today. I need to be told positive feed back, to give me confidence.

[Christine_Marie_Sommers85]

Hi Heather. Haven’t heard from you in awhile, I asked a few questions in my last post.

[Christine_Marie_Sommers85]

Thank you Heather. My boyfriend said that I do tend to think to much about it & 8 think of it more of a task that needs to be done. I get home from work I’m tired and sometimes I’m not even in the mood to do dilation but I say to myself to, I can’t put it off I need to practice. Has this ever happened to you? If so what helped you get through that? Also did you dilate every day?

[Christine_Marie_Sommers85]

Thank you. That does make sense what you said about using the dilators in the beginning. I’m not use pure romance dilators. I bought dilators off of the vaginusm site. It comes with 6 dilators, and a handle so I have control on how fast I can put it in. I hope these can work just as well as the Pure Romance & the glass dilators.

[Christine_Marie_Sommers85]

I am currently on 4 now and I’m doing reverse Kegel to try and get it in. It’s bit surprising to me I’m having difficulties since I was able to get 4 in before without any problems. Then when I transitioned to 5 and it was taking forever, I called the vaginusm company and they said I needed to read the 10 step book which I’ve been doing, & they were actually surprised I got as far as I did without the book. Now I take showers and as soon as I get out, I’m relaxed and ready for bed but I want to practice the dilators before I fall asleep. Need some advice on how to get 4 all the way in.

[Christine_Marie_Sommers85]

Alright. I’m actually trying that now on my 4th dilator. I think it’s going to take a few times because the further I push it in, it burns. Is that how it worked for you?

[Christine_Marie_Sommers85]

I’ve never heard of reverse kegel. How is that done?

[Christine_Marie_Sommers85]

Thank you. My boyfriend & I one yr anniversary is in Nov & he is hoping by then we are having sex. I mean we do other things but I can understand him wanting that as well. I want it too. It bothers me everyday that I won’t reach it by then. I wish I didn’t have this…😢😭

Sometimes I have a break down over it. I do my best to stay positive & my boyfriend is good to me. I know this is treatable, I’ve always been a slower learner @ everything. Never thought this would be one of them.

[Christine_Marie_Sommers85]

Hi Heather and mazemelissa.
I am currently on my period so I haven’t done anything in a few days. Which sucks because I will have to start over. I wish this was easier for me lol. I just want to give my boyfriend the gift he has been wanting. He has been supportive of me. It’s hard on him but I think it bothers me more.

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