Making Peace with Vaginismus
April 7, 2017 at 2:40 pm #20777
One of the things I hear over and over again from vaginismus patients is that they feel damaged or abnormal. Even after all of the hard work they have done to overcome vaginismus, many have the fear that it will come back. I think trying to “make peace” with vaginismus” is very important to the healing process. This is not your fault, there is nothing you did to cause this, and you are not being punished. When those negative automatic thoughts about vaginismus start to enter your thoughts, try and find a phrase or mantra that helps your feel in control, and at peace with your vaginismus. Some examples patients have used include ” peaceful vagina,” and “vaginsmus no more.” Anything that can help you heal your psychological battle with vaginismus will benefit both the mind and the body over time.April 10, 2017 at 6:27 pm #20785
Rachel Hercman, LCSWModerator
Great post, Nicole.
It really speaks to the need for vaginismus treatment to not just be about physical changes, but also addressing the painful emotional aspect as well.May 4, 2017 at 12:15 pm #20901
I recently spoke with a woman with vaginismus who wanted me to understand that her fear was overwhelming and felt bigger than her “pain”. She did the Botox procedure and is doing much better physically and slowly healing emotionally. Finding a mantra as Nicole suggests is a great idea – connecting mind and body is necessary in overcoming vaginismus.May 7, 2017 at 3:06 pm #20909
This was such a huge part of my treatment of vaginismus for me – becoming okay with the fact that I’d been suffering with vaginismus for so long. It was unfair and painful, but you will start to heal much faster when you let go of the resentment of the past. Sure, I wish I had not had years of sexual self-doubt, but I’m fortunate now to have so many years ahead of me to have new experiences and to live free from shame. Part of making peace is learning to look forward instead of looking back.May 23, 2017 at 2:37 pm #20983
This is such a great post. I, too, held on to so much resentment even after I was physically healed. I was upset emotionally that it took so long to find the Botox treatment. Once I learned to let this go, it helped me to feel so much lighter and better overall.July 27, 2017 at 11:16 am #21336
It’s so important not to dismiss the power of our minds. I love the idea of a mantra to affirm ourselves and feel at peace.July 27, 2017 at 3:11 pm #21337
Rachel Hercman, LCSWModerator
“making peace is learning to look forward instead of looking back”
love this!!September 12, 2017 at 4:05 am #21796
I love this forum, it really speaks womanhood and it has a big help to everyone.October 10, 2017 at 4:30 pm #21956
Thanks so much for joining the forum. Glad to know it has been helpful!August 27, 2018 at 2:04 am #23567
Very amazing post Nicole and helpful too.August 28, 2018 at 3:37 pm #23574
I am so glad you found this helpful. Wishing you all the best, and please use this forum to ask any questions or express any thoughts you may have. We are here for you, and so happy you found us.August 28, 2018 at 4:23 pm #23575
I am so glad you found this helpful. Wishing you all the best, and please use this forum to ask any questions or express any thoughts you may have. We are here for you, and so happy you found us.August 29, 2018 at 1:01 am #23578
Thanks for your concerned.January 7, 2019 at 3:51 pm #24138
I’m seeing a lot of women recently who are starting to open up to friends and family about their vaginismus. As a consequence they are experiencing more support, less shame, more connection, and hope. Of course it’s up to us who invite in and who we don’t. Just wanted to let you all know what I have been noticing lately. Any thoughts? Vaginismus can be such a lonely and isolating experience.
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