“What’s wrong with my husband? All he wants is sex! It’s never enough! And when we’re done, he’s thinking about the next time we’ll have sex…” I hear this complaint often from women and I get it. I get how frustrating it can be. But maybe, just maybe, what your partner is looking for is much deeper than that. Maybe what he needs is just plain touch. We all need that to feel comforted, alive connected. And maybe sex is the only way for him to get what he needs. Read this. It may give you a better understanding and maybe even more compassion. Because I think it’s true. Men, in our society are touch-starved. Touching isn’t allowed. And so “Having no other conduit to physical comfort but sexualized touch can lead to an obsessive focus on just that. For many men, sex becomes validation, plain and simple. Sexual frequency becomes everything; the metric for defining a good life.”
What’s wrong with those men? All they want is sex!
- Posted in: Low Libido
Bat Sheva Marcus, LMSW, MPH, PhD
Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus is a certified sex therapist and the Clinical Director of Maze Women’s Sexual Health, one of the largest centers for women’s sexual health in the country. Dr. Marcus wrote her dissertation on women and vibrator use while earning her Doctor of Philosophy in human sexuality from the Institute of Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She also has a Master’s in public health from the same institution. She is a licensed social worker with a Master’s degree from Columbia University. Dr. Marcus has worked as the executive director of not-for-profit institutions and corporations, medical practices and laboratories. In addition to being featured in a NY Times article, she is a frequent guest on radio, podcasts and has lectured both nationally and overseas on a wide variety of women's issues.
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