The misunderstood sex therapist-friend.

One of my best friends came from out of town to spend the night. We had a great time catching up and talking about pretty much everything, including the fact that the vibrator she was using felt too big and clunky.

The day after she left I mailed her a book I thought she would like, and for good luck, tossed in a small Jolie vibrator. This e-mail exchange followed:

Her: Hi. Thanks so much for the book and light…it was so thoughtful of you. — F

Me: Light??????? That’s a vibrator, dummy!! — B

Her: Well, after S (her 12 year-old son) and I spent about 20 minutes trying to figure out where the light was and how it works…..I decided to give it a break. Good thing I got your email in time or I may have sent it with him to camp to figure out with his friends!!!

So, double thanks for the gifts.

Moral of the Story: Sometimes a flashlight is just a flashlight. And sometimes it’s not!

Picture of Bat Sheva Marcus, LMSW, MPH, PhD

Bat Sheva Marcus, LMSW, MPH, PhD

Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus is a certified sex therapist and the Clinical Director of Maze Women’s Sexual Health, one of the largest centers for women’s sexual health in the country. Dr. Marcus wrote her dissertation on women and vibrator use while earning her Doctor of Philosophy in human sexuality from the Institute of Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She also has a Master’s in public health from the same institution. She is a licensed social worker with a Master’s degree from Columbia University. Dr. Marcus has worked as the executive director of not-for-profit institutions and corporations, medical practices and laboratories. In addition to being featured in a NY Times article, she is a frequent guest on radio, podcasts and has lectured both nationally and overseas on a wide variety of women's issues.
All Posts

A safe and comfortable place to discuss vaginismus

The vaginismus forum at Maze Women’s Health is designed to bring women together. We understand that painful sex, vaginismus treatment, and the subsequent recovery can be sensitive topics, and you should have a safe and comfortable place to voice your experience, opinions, and concerns.

We envision this vaginismus forum as a place for you to introduce yourself, share your personal story, ask questions, and discuss any and all aspects of vaginismus, including our treatment options. We sincerely hope that you find this to be a comfortable place to discuss your struggles and triumphs as you navigate through vaginismus treatment. Talking through these issues with women that have gone through it can make all the difference.

Recent Posts

Categories
Archives

Share article