[Tiffany]

Hey Everyone, I’m from South Africa so I purchased dilators from a site called my sexual health and I didn’t go for the botox procedure. I’m only on the second dilator. The first one was easy for me but I just have a question regarding how it’s supposed to feel because I’m using the second dilator for maybe around 3 weeks now, for the entire 3 weeks the whole dilator goes in but some days it feels as if nothing is in my vagina and some days like yesterday I feel a little, I wouldn’t say like bad pain because it’s not excruciating but it’s like a burning discomfort kinda feeling but it makes me wanna take it out or not move at all so I lay in bed still until it’s time to take it out, also when I insert the dilator there’s a feeling of tightness but nothings ever so bad where I can’t continue, if I feel like it’s going to get worse then I just take it out and reinsert but every night when I dilate I go through that, it’s either a little pain entering and no pain when the second half is going in or there’s no pain entering and a little pain deep inside my vagina, I’m so confused and feel like I’m stuck with this one when I have 3 more to go 🙁 can anyone tell me whats happening? Thank you

[Tiffany]

Hey everyone, I’ve tried plastic dilators but that didn’t work out for me so I stopped dilating for like more than a year and recently purchased silicone dilators, on my 3rd try I was able to successfully put the entire first one in with no pain which is a huge deal for me because I used to cry like a baby previously however I just have a question regarding coconut oil, I am desperate for a long lasting lube and have been using a silicone lube with silicone dilators. The second day when dilating I left it in until the pain and pressure subsided and when I was ready to push further it started to burn, once I removed the dilator I saw that the tip was completely dry and that prevented me from pushing further, this is the first dilator so I don’t want the same thing to happen when I move to the next sizes because this has been so easy for me Im so stressed of continuing and having difficulties and then going back to square one, please give me advice on coconut oil being used with silicone dilators and how to wash it off from the dilator, also what’s the maximum time I am allowed to keep the dilator in, basically just advice going forward from here so I can maybe prevent any hiccups and finally overcome this. Thank you guys so much

[Tiffany]

I really appreciate the advice, thank you so much

[Tiffany]

Hi, my name is Tiffany and I’m married for 2 years. I’ve been recently diagnosed with vaginismus and I desperately want to be cured. I got my dilators from vaginismus.com however I’m seeking advice on using lidocaine. I live in South Africa so Botox is not an option for me, the only way I can overcome my vaginismus is through dilation therapy.I’m ready to do this however the fear and anxiety is overwhelming and I’m struggling to insert the first small one because once I feel the burning I lose the strength I have to go further.. do you suggest I use lidocaine to help me or should I just persist and move slowly maybe inch by inch each day till it gets better? Will it get better? I don’t want to become dependent on lidocaine to insert the dilators but I’m thinking maybe I need something just to help me in the beginning just to get started.. Im known for fussing and moaning even when I get touched down there, my gynaecologist just touched me down there to check if everything is okay structurally and I was moaning because I do feel scared especially because I know the pain I’ve always felt. Is it the fear that I need to control first? And Am I too quick to think about lidocaine? In my desperate attempt to get better please help me. I’m willing to do whatever it takes to be cured, I’m also very stressed and I don’t want to do the wrong thing, please please help, I’m open to all advice and suggestions.. I’d also like to thank everyone at maze for helping women like me all over the world, before I found this forum I was completely lost and alone. Having vaginismus is the worse thing that any woman could go through and you guys make life so much easier simply by giving us hope and encouragement, teaching us on how to overcome and be cured, helping us when we’re stuck. Reading other womens posts and learning of their journey has made me stronger in mine and I just want to say thank you maze because without this I would have never been strong enough to take the first step in curing my vaginismus

[Author]

Posts